Long Road Ahead

[Serene46]

I have not been on here in quite some time. Glad it’s still here for me. I need some support right now. I’ve been dating a guy for over a year. He’s a great guy, but when he drinks he changes. He gets mad about things he thinks happens. So few weeks ago it happened and he wouldn’t talk to me about it and told me to go home. I was very upsets, we had some drinks. I spent some time trying to talk things out. So I left severely upset. I ran a stop sign pulling out on to a highway and was hit by a car traveling about 55. I took off from there not caring if I lived. I wanted to die I believe that was in my head. Was not thinking clearly at all. I totaled my car. Nobody was badly hurt. I had a guardian angel in my car that night for sure. I of course was arrested. Normally I wouldn’t do anything. I’m on Prozac for anxiety and depression from previous things in my life. I’ve really messed up things. I’m a lil lost and scared as I’ve never been through anything like this before. It’s not who or how I am. I avoid trouble and don’t like to get in trouble. Him and I have talked some since then. We spent the day together yesterday for the first time and had a good day. He has quit drinking and with my situation I have not drank since. I have no plans to. It’s not something I do often. We hadn’t had time for our selves with kids and work and it had been a while since we were out.

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Glad you made it!!! You have to be so careful and feelings can get to us and they surprise us with their intensity. The thing is you have got to remain calm or take break or short pause before your emotions take over you and should try doing this before getting in car. It can save your life, just pause or break. If you have not got your feelings in check then it might be wise not to drive. I am glad both of you are not drinking anymore as this will be best option. Best to you and him. You are good people and never forget that.

[Beavis2022]

This man is abusive, and it's not going to get any better. Drinking or not - he's shown you who he is. I know you don't want to hear this, but it's the absolute truth. Just because you have good times, sometimes, does not change the fact that he is mean, and can't communicate. Don't waste too many years suffering with this. Contact Domestic Violence in your area, or read some books on the subject. They can counsel you, if you keep choosing this type of man. I've been through this, as well as thousands of women, so I know what I'm talking about.

[tiggra in reply to Beavis2022]

Don't over analyze. You love the person, not their disease, but you have to decide if you want to stay with him o move on, just feel right about whatever you decide and find peace in your heart to cope. You're peace of mind is what's most important, no matter what.