I need somewhere to vent and this place has always been supportive to me... so here I go...
4 months ago, I met a guy online and we started dating. I was nervous to date because my previous relationship was physically abusive. I was scared to get close with anyone, but somehow this new guy made everything seem ok. I told him about my past and how I've had troubled relationships and he seemed to care an be genuine.
We've been having problems the past few months. Constantly fighting about stupid things. Mostly me needing more out of the relationship. He only saw me when it was convenient to him. This brought up a lot of red flags for me. I started questioning the relationship and feelings and even blamed him for cheating since he was being so distant.
He told me in the beginning that he had a problem with drugs. He was a drug dealer and got into a lot of trouble with the law, had to spend time in jail, has to do all these things to stay compliant with his parole officer. Drug tests, lie detector tests etc. I've never myself been one to get in trouble, so I dont know how the law works. I figured he got in trouble 3 yrs ago... hes clean off drugs and learned his lesson. And now he just has to jump through the hoops to stay out of trouble.
So.... the last few weeks things have been kinda off with him. I took the last few days to myself just to think about my relationship with him and if i wanna continue it. I'm not happy with him, yet i have feelings i can't let go of. So i just wanted to take some time to analyze everything. I'm currently in counseling and she is helping me figure out my attachment to this guy.
A few nights ago.... things did not seem right in my heart. This guy is super secretive with me, is now distancing himself, hasn't fully opened up to me.... I needed to figure out why. I never googled his name before, which I should have. He wasnt quick to give me his last name in the beginning.... but I remember him telling me what it was. I trusted him so I figured, why Google him? It took me a bit to get the correct spelling of his last name, but once I figured it out.... my heart dropped.
After typing in his name, I saw his mugshot and sex offender or kidnapper pop up. OMG!
I looked into it further, he had raped a child in the 3rd degree. After further investigating..... he lied to me and told me his probs with the law were because of drugs.. that's untrue. Apparently he told ppl in jail the same thing.
After all my research, I found he raped a 7 year old for 8 years. My heart is in a million pieces. How could he do this to a little girl!? I myself was molested at a young age, me and him even talked about it.
After I found this out... I text him right away and said I was finally got around to googling you. I said goodbye and blocked him without giving him the chance to respond. I'm assuming he knows I know the truth now... but I still feel I need to talk to him and either get answers or tell him off. I'm just so lost and confused and I gave my heart to this guy. How could I be so blind? I want to warn others about this guy, because even when I dated him... he was very aggressive with me. He wouldnt stop at the first "no". I just dont want him hurting anyone else. My heart goes out to the lil girl he raped for 8 years 💔
I dont know how to get over this 😭 someone I thought I knew is a complete monster