My story ?I am a medical professional.
Lost both my parents. Father 10 yrs back to severe pneumonia and mother 2 yrs back to cancer.
I was a single daughter so no siblings.
No interaction with relatives or cousins as they are very very rich and thinking dont match. So we call to wish birthdays and on festivals only.
I have 2 close friends but they are busy in their lives and I don't like to be burden.
What is important is you and taking care of yourself priority. Look after yourself and things will fall into place. Learn about yourself and get the support you need.
Thank you... but I barely gather energy to study and go to my job. Taking care of myself includes taking bath and brushing at the max
Hello and welcome,
I am sorry that you have had to suffer such deep losses. This community has many kind and supportive members. I hope you can find some comfort here.
So sorry for your losses. I'm in a similar position to you. I'm a nurse and I lost my mum nearly 5 years ago and my Dad a year ago. I'm an only Daughter too and just see my remaining relatives once or twice a year. I would recommend the community on here and also on the untangle grief app, where they also do sessions over zoom, however you do have to pay for it but it's only a small fee.
Hi...I m really sorry for you too. We can completely relate to each other. Already going through emotional exhaustion at personal level and then have to deal with hospital atmosphere where you have to put up a strong yet compassionate personality. I am an anaesthetist. Recently went through a very rough and heartbreaking period in my relationship as well. It was really really beautiful in past. Then destiny happened.
I just read ur introduction post. I m in my 30s as well. 37 yrs old. This orphan feeling is really deep.
When I go to restaurants I see parents sitting with their daughters.. when my female friends pick their phone to say "hello mumma"...and let's not start wat happens on holidays...
I have been really strong or at least pretending to be strong to deal with everything all by myself. But this break up was the big and last deep laceration wound like...
Yeah, losing your parents in your 20s/30s is really tough. It feels like there is no one you can relate to as most people still have their parents at this age. It's especially difficult on holidays.Yeah I was the same up until June 2024 then it was fathers day, 6 months since my Dad passed, 5 yrs since my mum passed and my lifelong neighbour who was like a grandma to me passed away too. Then I crumbled and was off sick from work for nearly 8 months as my anxiety, depression and grief was terrible. But in hindsight I hadn't grieved properly until then and having the time off let me just feel all the emotions and let me work my way through the grief, rather than just trying to put on a brave face and push it to the back on my mind (which doesn't help).
Having a relationship break up is another thing to grieve for you too. Be kind to yourself, you have been through and are going through a really tough time. If you're able to take some time away to let yourself feel all the emotions and work your way through them, then definitely do. I appreciate that it's not always possible for people to step out of work for awhile.
I am really sorry for ur neighbour-grandma. I can understand this feeling. Actually wat happens is...you unintentionally start starving for parental love. And when an elder like ur neighbour provides you with that unconditional warmth you feel like someone has given u a sweater on a cold night. It does happens with me too. For example...i was on a very busy night duty...in surgical recovery where we keep our post op patients...an old patient asked me at 11pm..."dear you have been continuously working. Did u have ur dinner ? My family is coming to meet me from home in some time. Do u want something home cooked ?"Believe me...it almost brought tears to my eyes. Because I do miss my mumma's food. "Home cooked food". I thanked her warmly and made her believe that I had had my meal already.
I sometimes write letters to mumma in my diary.
I am doing DNB residency. Tenure is complete. But expecting my final exams in a few months. So I can't imagine of a vacation. Already a lot of my time goes to outbreaks due to...u kno..But yea u are right will plan to meet my friends who live in different state....after exam
Yes we can definitely relate to each other. Yeah I completely get that, plus having to deal with potential triggers too, for example my Dad died from sepsis in the end and when I had to do an emergency scenario at work it ended up being on sepsis (we don't get told in advance as it's meant to be like it would be if an real emergency was happening). Oh no, that's awful that you've been through another difficult time after you had been through so much already.
Yea...our profession sometimes bring back all the flashbacks...
Start running it helps
It won't hurt to reach out to a neighbor for a social connection. It sounds like you could be at risk for becoming isolated.
Yes u are right. Everyone is like get married get married. U will have someone. Can't tell them that I m cursed in that department also. Despite my endless efforts people abandon me in relationships. That's why I don't meet neighbours. I live in hostel. My home is 1 hr drive and no one lives there. I visit it once a month for maintenance only.
I read your posts and I feel so much compassion for you - please continue to reach out to us..
Oh thank you so much...😊
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