Heartbreak

[Luna614]

Hi you can call me Luna, My therapist suggests I join a support group and talk about my depression and loss. I raises my child on my own mostly because my spouse was in the military. It was very hard and so lonely but I support him and his troops family as best as I could. He was deployed over seas and the man that came back was not the same. I tried giving him space and time but it only got progressively worst. He because angry, cold, and detached. So many things happen that I can't even begin to explain here. But my life turned upside-down. My kids was assaulted by another kid in school. She was only 8 yrs old. The damage that this caused in my family was horrible. I took her to a therapist. I wish I could say that things got better but the truth is it didn't. As the years went by things got worse. My daughter never recovered and her mental health took a nose dive. My husband's health also declined. For the past 15 yrs I became the care taker to 2 mentally impaired, my husband and daughter. I reached out to every doctor available to help me and educate me on how to handle them but I didn't get the support I needed. I had very little support and dealing with them started to take a toll on me. On the past 5 yrs I have had lost my friend to cancer, my grandmother, and so many other. But the worst that finally broke my heart, was when my own child decided to cut me out completely out of her life over a person that by the way I helped so they weren't homeless. She was my only kid and we were so close and just like that she cut me out with no explanations. I That was a year ago. I lost any joy I had left. I feel like a hollow shell of my former self. My heart feels like have a big gaping hole. I feel like I'm in morning as weird as that sounds.

[Starrlight]

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[worthytobeloved]

I'm so incredibly sorry for what you've been through for so long, and are still going through. I hope and pray your daughter will come back to you, and that this is just temporary. Thinking of you. xxx

[Luna614 in reply to worthytobeloved]

Thank you! I appreciate your kind words.

[CLB1125]

did your husband and child ever seek help? It’s good you are trying to help them but they need to work on themselves too. I’m sorry your daughter cut you off. Maybe give her some space and time and she will come around. How old is she? You’re right it is like you’re mourning. You have lost a relationship with someone you love. Take this time to work on yourself. Self care is important. Im glad you are here

[Luna614]

Hi, thank you for your support. To answer your questions, yes they have both been in therapy and take medicine for their conditions. My daughter is 23 yrs old. She is my only child and yes I acknowledge that she is a adult and no I have no interest in controlling her life. All I have ever wanted was her happiness, whatever that looks like.

[CLB1125]

sometimes young adults confuse being interested in their life with trying to be controlling. I know you are hurting but for right now all you can do is give her the space she wants and check in on periodically. Invite her for Sunday dinner or any family activities. If she comes great if not then you did what you could. Does she communicate with your husband with her? Would he be willing to meditate between you? But please take care of yourself too. I’m happy to see you here looking for companionship.

[Luna614]

I have respected her boundaries and have given her the space she needs. I know in time she will figure it out on her own. That said, it doesn't stop hurting her rejection towards me. Heck not just me but everyone that loves her. She cut out family and friends. It only resent that she is having contact with my mom. And she adores her. It been a whole year of me wondering how did it all go so wrong when we use to be so very close.