Help!. Am I doing the right thing?

[Sophz20]

After my bf broke up with me 3 months ago and living together, I finally found a place and I’m doubting my decision. He doesn’t want me to move out, we can be civil and he tells me that he doesn’t want me to leave. I’m not going to have a vehicle because the one we have it’s his. I’m ok with that, I want peace, our relationship wasn’t good obviously, a little toxic and now that I’m moving out he’s giving me a hard time saying, it’s easy if I stay, he can pay for everything, etc, but that’s just convenience, I don’t want convenience, I want my peace. Sometimes I think I’m making a mistake leaving. But how to leave with your ex just because it’s easy for him seeing me everyday and easy for me financially? Isn’t it selfish?

[Starrlight]

in my opinion, you know what is right by the sense of peace about the decision. Best to you always! ❤️

[Sophz20 in reply to Starrlight]

Thank you so much!! I appreciate it!

[Dogmom8]

protect your peace! If you know you’re going to be okay on your own and you want to be happy with your living situation and yourself do what’s best for you. Not him or anyone else just you! It’s okay to be selfish sometimes!

[Sophz20 in reply to Dogmom8]

Thank you! Sometimes it’s hard to know when I have him making me doubt my decision. Telling “here you have everything, I pay for everything, here you won’t lack of anything”. All of that it’s just financial stuff and he’s right about that but what about us? The fact to stay somewhere just because it’s easy for him.

[Dogmom8 in reply to Sophz20]

sounds like he wants to keep you close. I wonder why

[Sophz20 in reply to Dogmom8]

He said he’s being selfish, he doesn’t want us to be a couple but doesn’t want me to leave because he wants to see me everyday.

[Dogmom8 in reply to Sophz20]

well that’s not fair to you. If you’re both open to working on your relationship then that’s fine. But if he doesn’t want to be with you then he needs to completely let you leave.