Don’t worry be happy

[Starrlight]

It’s hard to believe in everything going smoothly so I can have peace. How do I get peace of mind? As a mom I want everything for my kids but I struggle to keep everything running smoothly. It’s waking up at 5:00 am it’s hoping they eat the lunch I pack them. My youngest crying before school because he misses us and the work is hard he says. Wondering what my middle son is doing but not attending the back to school night because it just seems like a lot of stress for info I won’t remember and not getting a good dinner and to bed on time. I’m just really focused on the main things I have to do and just that is a struggle because in my mind I am on alert and scared of I don’t even know what.

I am still getting used to not taking the strong anxiety pills. It’s a big change not having that as a crutch and no drinking either. I am taking Passion flower which helps 3x a day and propranolol twice a day which can help with physical symptoms of anxiety.

Just needed to check in with you lovely people. Hope everything is going well for each of you. It’s hard not to worry, right but how can one stop I mean it really doesn’t do any good. How to get out of the worry trap? I want to not worry and be happy. I’m missing out on life in a way, I need to trust life doesn’t have to be scary to live. Checking/obsessing over things, wondering if things are okay.

[Dheeya]

How do u have hope for the future,because thinking of living with my anxiety for the future gives me panic attacks

[Starrlight in reply to Dheeya]

I know we just try to trust I think. Like in looking back and seeing the good that is happening in life, see things work out, so that gives us hope and trust that things will be okay and we just live the day as best we can, sometimes planning, sometimes just in the moment as we figure things out. I think 🤔

[Hidden]

Hi star....

I constantly ruminate over people and what ifs ...it’s exhausting..so I hear what your saying...

Today I’ve been on here a bit more as I’ve struggled a lot with it all...it helps to come here and be understood when you write things down.

Sorry for your struggles...❤️❤️🌺🌺🌹🌹

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

🥰 love to you. Yes this is our safe place, isn’t it? Sorry for your struggles Olivia. I know I was just what ‘if’ing about a friend. I just came back from walking to pick up a kiddo, getting ready to walk in the other direction now to get the other. It’s hard to get out sometimes but can be healthy for us. Sending you good vibes and hope you feel relaxed at the end of this day.

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

Thank you and yes it can be more healthy for us 😊 to at least have a walk.

Hope you have a peaceful evening ❤️

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Thanks You too.

[elderspectrum]

Hi Starr,

I want to not worry and be happy too. I realized that my life these past three months has been 90 percent doctors, insurance companies, tests, depression, anxiety and worry. My therapist today asked if I could do something between now and next week that could bring me joy. I said I couldn't conceive of anything while I was this depressed. Yes, life shouldn't be scary to live and filled with torment. We all need our lives back. -elderspectrum

[Starrlight in reply to elderspectrum]

Yeah we do. It can happen. I hope it happens for us soon.

[Starrlight in reply to elderspectrum]

((((((((Hug))))))))

[Hidden]

Worry is like a rocking chair, you move back and forth but doesnt get you anywhere...

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Yeah trying to get rid of the rocking chair. There is a difference between checking to make sure you’ve got things done and checking when you’ve already got it done. I tend to keep thinking about a future task or event until it’s done .. it’s annoying.

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Starrlight]

I have a list of a gazillion projects in my head that I “should do.” Yes it’s really annoying.

[Starrlight in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Yup.

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Starrlight]

It’s difficult to be a human being instead of a human doing

[Hidden]

I tend to think of some event and stick to it..for example, lets say ive planned a holiday, in four months time..my mind will be stuck on that event till the time comes.. but until then, im aimless..i get stuck on one thing till its done/achieved and sometimes it could be months on..weird..i like to hear ,you, trying things out..

[Nom-D-Ploom]

My kids are all grown now, and it really is an empty feeling you experience when you no longer have to sweat the details of their lives.

I heard a good song by Steve Sanders, "Don't wish the good times away."

Davy Jones wrote a good one too. Let me see if I can find them:

youtube.com/watch?v=bxVY0rP...(Not working as expected?)

Here's one by a different singer, and different lyrics: youtube.com/watch?v=EFG_Sgr...(Not working as expected?)

[Starrlight]

Awww 🥰