Depressed

[BookishWendy]

I lay in bed all day and night since my hubby got sick and died. I do work but I rarely cook or clean and I eat poorly. I'm surviving not living. Please help.

[Albatrossss]

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, and I want you to know you're not alone. Grief is overwhelming, and it’s okay to struggle. It sounds like you're doing your best, but it’s important to be gentle with yourself. Maybe start small—focus on one thing at a time, like getting out of bed for a short walk or eating a simple meal. You don’t have to have everything figured out right now. It’s okay to ask for help, and taking small steps towards care for yourself can make a big difference. I'm here if you need to talk.

[CanYouHearMe in reply to Albatrossss]

Excellent advice. G

[Albatrossss in reply to CanYouHearMe]

Thanks 😊

[Nothing_but_books]

Hi Wendy, what specific kind of help would do you good? I'm hoping I have some.

[PadThaiNoodles]

I find it helps to make sure I get at least one constructive thing done every day. I had a banner day today: I washed my bed sheets AND went to the bottle bank.

[BookishWendy]

Congrats padthainoodles! Thanks for the tip.

[punkster]

I am so sorry about your husband. My husband has a very bad heart, and is not expected to live long. I have thought about what I would do when he passes. I, too, would want to stay in bed all day. I spoke with my therapist about it and decided that I would need to make a short list of things I needed to accomplish in a day, including self-care. Also, reach out to friends and loved-ones, and even ask them to call you so you don't need to call them. In time, it might help to join a grief support group. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[mizzou7016]

So sorry for your loss....grief is a terrible thing....especially around this time of year...I disagree with your statement though....sometimes living...(at least in my mind).....is surviving the current day to fight and try again the next day...you are conquering things that you need to conquer right now.....I have cleaning issues and I'm not grieving a loss...just do the best you can...