Daughter anger issues

[Strongest123]

Hello everyone on here. Hope everyone’s had a good day. I myself find myself struggling so much lately. My OCDS been elevated and my depression gets worse during summer months. I’m a single father to a young teenage girl. I absolutely adore my daughter, but lately she’s been tough to deal with. Everything’s a struggle with her and she gets angry for any reason. It really affects to her quality of life and it’s taking a toll on mine. I honestly can’t wait for her to start school. Her mom and I have her seeing a therapist but it doesn’t seem to work. She’s always in a cranky miserable mood. Sometimes I’m at my wits end to be honest. I feel sometimes that I just forward to sleeping, so as not to deal with all the aggravation. Thank you. SAMSON

[optimismrus]

Having raised four girls, I feel for you and what you are going thru. I'm glad you and your wife have agreed to therapy for your daughter. That's good coparenting. Just be aware that while it helped my daughter, it also empowered her to think she was justified. Something that helped me, is when I joined a "Tough Love" group. It was reassuring to hear what other parents are dealing with. Also, they showed me that I shouldn't reward my daughter when she was being so cruel to me. I stopped giving her birthday presents and Xmas presents for a time. I know it sounds horrible, but when you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. I'm glad you can vent on this site and we will always support you. 🥰

[Strongest123 in reply to optimismrus]

Thank you so much I surely appreciate your response. Just curious , a tough love group? SAMSON

[optimismrus in reply to Strongest123]

I'm in California and I googled TOUGHLOVE Parent Support Groups and found many choices for these kind of groups to help parents, some free and online. 👍

[Agora1]

Strongest123, Hormones play a big part in a teen's anger and belligerence.

They are trying to find themselves, want to fit in with the crowd and embarrassed

to have parents that dote on them. It's like you can't win with them. If you say blue,

they say green, if you say purple they say red. It's one of the most difficult times

of a parent's life. I use to have a poster that said, "Having a teenager is like trying

to nail Jello to the wall"

Like anything else Strongest123, those years pass quickly. And one day, you will

find yourself dealing with the boyfriend and learning to drive. Just saying, it never

really ends.. It's one of the reasons I use meditation to this day. That's my escape

tool when it's too early to go to bed lol xx

[Hidden]

it’s great she’s seeing a therapist… are you?

Family therapy can be really useful, encouraging a neutral space with a third party who isn’t clouded by emotional investment, and who could help to facilitate more effective communication between the two of you.

Also, if there are any underlying situations/trauma that may contribute to her moods/behavior (besides being a hormonal teenager ), she may be more likely to share with you that information in a safe space (therapy).

Best of luck ❤️

[catsrock]

I have two grown daughters and the teenage years were rough! I'm glad she is seeing a therapist. Best book I ever read on parenting was, "Parenting with Love and Logic." It's an oldie, but a goodie, and you can probably get it at your library. Hang in there - it will get better.