I have a huge ( in my mind) dilemma. I have a daughter who is almost 20 who lives with me. In maturity she’s maybe 12. But very smart, (on dean’s list at school. ) Going to the University and being on campus helped her but since the pandemic and having to stay home and do online classes she has gotten worse. I am her mother and I feel responsible for her bad behavior even though I have nothing to do with that I know. I keep thinking something I did as she grew up got her to be the way she is.
She is abusive towards me. I go out of my way to take care of her because I worry about her but deep down I know that I’m only enabling her. She can’t seem to do anything herself. Doesn’t do her laundry has no idea how to prepare any food refuses to order it. How can I sit by and watch her health go down the toilet? But she is so abusive towards me it makes me cry every night. I’m all she has how can I abandon her? I had her late in life so she’s gonna be alone sooner than later. My heart is breaking. I told her how much I love her and how worried I am and I try to give advice it only makes things worse.