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Hi everyone on here. I hope my message finds everyone doing well. I myself am struggling a little bit. My little girl who is 11 is leaving for 3 weeks with her mom, stepdad, and little brother. Iā€™m happy that sheā€™s going on vacation for a few weeks, but Iā€™m gonna miss her dearly. Just imagining her away for 3 weeks is triggering my depression. Thank you. SAMSON

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Agora1

Strongest123, I can only imagine how difficult this is for you in not seeing yourlittle girl for 3 weeks. Try during her time away to reverse your thinking in picturing

her enjoying running and playing and laughing. Hopefully Joy will fill your heart

and not sadness knowing that she is safe and is happy.

We are here for you if you need support during that time. :) xx

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Strongest123 in reply to Agora1

Thank you Agora1. I appreciate all your support. I got up early this morning to say by to my little girl. I drove to Dunkin Donuts today to get her favorite breakfast. Am I sad? Yes of course. A big part of my life is my daughter, I spend a lot of time with her and she does help with my depression. I just got back from seeing her, I went to have breakfast and picked up some milk and now Iā€™m home. Even though itā€™s early I think Iā€™m just going to relax a bit today. I usually go to mass on Sunday with my daughter and her stepdad, but I may go tomorrow. Hope my message finds you and your daughter doing well. Your friend, SAMSON

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Daesin

As a parent not having the child near Is very hard. Even when they are grown. Obviously you love her greatly.

Why not take this time to do something special for yourself? Learn a new magic trick. Read a book she likes. Learn a bunch of jokes. Plant a flower/tree etc. Get a haircut and go shave. Get a massage. Go on a date. Focus on you for a hot minute. Make yourself stronger for her.

Do something for her. Can you repaint her room or build a bird house by her window? Make some pretty pillows for her bed or find a favorite book?

Figure out Something that will make her smile even bigger after she lets go of Daddyā€™s neck.

Maybe get her a camera or journal to document her adventure? Of you do make contact during the trip DONT talk about you! Focus on her trip and what she sees and experiences.

Find A special trinket she can carry to match one you have. My son and I had matching worry stones. He lost his and I wore mine out, lol.

Most of all ā€¦

Dad, donā€™t let this ruin her adventure. Your anxiety should not imprison her. Be proud of her as she unfolds her wing. She is exploring new worlds and new civilizations, boldly goingā€¦ wait, okay that is Star Trek but the philosophy is on target.

You have taught her well and she is safe. Let her enjoy this without worrying about you. Help make the trip fun and plan for her return when you will get to listen to the wonderful stories she has of her journey.

No itā€™s not easy but when has Anything about being a parent been easy? You can do this. ā¤ļø Daddies are so special and important to a girl. I know I miss mine. I know she loves hers.

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Strongest123 in reply to Daesin

Thank you for your support. I did go get a shave and cut after saying bye to my little one today. I was trying my best to show how happy I was for her. SAMSON

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Daesin in reply to Strongest123

Keep yourself busy. Keep yourself productive. Your baby girl needs to see herDaddy as solid as his name is. I will admit I cried my eyes out when I had to let my kids go away without me. Every time. But never in front of them. Never take away her happiness. You are a good dad. Or else you wouldnā€™t care. Stay positive and keep us updated.

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blackcat64013

Hi and thanks for your postšŸ‘ Agora and Daesin have provided good advice which I think hits the mark.Reach into your mental health tool kit and look after yourself.

If the saying, time flies is correct, your angel will be home soon enough for some big Daddy šŸ«‚ hugs.šŸ˜‡

Regards from Australia šŸ¦˜

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Strongest123 in reply to blackcat64013

Thank you for your support. SAMSON

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Balloffur2468

Thatā€™s really beautiful. Perhaps take on a hobby during this time or come up with something you can do for when she comes back

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