Experiencing loneliness boredom and frustration

[Mohammad-341]

I feel lot of loneliness , as i have no one to talk other than therapist and frustration due to so many personal, and economical failure. I m looking for the person who are going through or underwent feeling of the same kind to share my feelings and frustration.

[ZonaGirl]

I too face a great deal of loneliness. I don’t really have any friends because I isolate myself and put up a wall to people. I only let them so far in. I don’t want to burden my children. I talk to my husband, but he doesn’t understand. He’s a naturally happy person. Im open to you for sharing.

[sunshinefan]

I, too, feel lonely. I do have people to talk to but I don't like to burden them. I isolate and I'm a big introvert and don't like to be around a lot of people. I get really tired around people. They drain me. But I think online groups are somewhat helpful although they aren't a replacement for face to face. I'm happy to read and respond.

[Mohammad-341 in reply to sunshinefan]

U r right

[Eliana10 in reply to Mohammad-341]

Hi, Mohammad, I feel that so many people are trying to reach out to you and want to start some type of friendship with you, but you are building walls and not allowing anyone in. Please don't think I am judging you in any way because I see that in myself too. It's not a sign of weakness to reach out to others and be vulnerable. Instead of giving one word answers maybe try to give a bit more of yourself..the more vulnerable you are and less walls you have around you..the more people will want to open up to you as well. Give us a chance. Can you do this? 😊

[PeaceNeed]

You have had difficult life. Im alone in a large city I hate and fear. My family moved away . Now i walk thru my old neighborhood and the memories torture me.

[Mohammad-341 in reply to PeaceNeed]

Its really tough

[Eliana10 in reply to PeaceNeed]

I too live in fear and live in the past a lot. In Therapy right now..but it is still tough. I won't lie or sugar coat it..

[Eliana10]

Yes..I feel lonely every day. I lost a lot that meant the world to me. I lost my father in 2008. He was my world. My best friend.. everything. I adored him. We talked on the phone every two days or so. We lived in Florida (Sarasota) together for a long time but I became restless (probably from loneliness) and moved to different states and around a lot. I also suffered from major depressive disorder and anxiety which I am now on meds for..but I still get lonely and depressed.

It was so much easier to make friends when I was younger in the 70's and 80's, maybe even the 90's than it is today. Today everyone is looking on the cell phones, texting, playing video games on them..they would much rather do that then have a real face to face conversation. I have had cats my whole life. I would say animals are almost a cure for loneliness. When I had my last two cats they were my "Family". They were happy and playful and brought me so much love, laughter and joy. I then had to file for permanent disability and everything got worse. I lost my car. I still had family..but except for my Dad, they treated me horribly, and like an outsider. I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. Sometimes I would be at a party in a roomful of people and still feel lonely. I miss the bonding I had in the 1970's and 80's. Every interaction seems so shallow now..

Now, it seems people are only out for themselves. A me, me, me attitude. I would say a sentence and they would interrupt and make it about them. I finally gave up on Friendships. I'm 62 now. I understand loneliness very well unfortunately. I hate it. It's nice to know people can relate. I wish we could all form some kind of face to face social group or something..

[Mohammad-341 in reply to Eliana10]

I agree face to face is good

[Eliana10 in reply to Mohammad-341]

Have you tried any of our suggestions? 😊

[Roukaya in reply to Eliana10]

I can relate as I lost my own Father in 2018 and life is never the same .

It is harder in this day and age to make connections but it is important to keep trying until you meet who is right for you .

[Cookie2217 in reply to Eliana10]

Hi. I agree with you 100 percent that relationships were more meaningful in the 70s and 80s. Best times of my life. Nowadays everyone is so into texting instead of having heart to heart conversations with their family it's really sad to see that disappearing more and more. My nephew Robert is constantly on his Xbox and stays in his room alone a lot of the time which makes me worry about his socialization. I also suffer with major depressive disorder too and PTSD and adjustment disorder as well. It would be a godsend to have a zoom chat with everyone in the group. I feel like I found people here who truly understand me and just get what I'm feeling too. Please don't give up on Friendships there's a lot of caring people here that would love to be friends with you I'm sure. I have a cat Bella who's a Maine Coon. She's my child with paws. Please hit me up anytime you'd like to chat ok. Wishing you peace and health! Take care.

[Eliana10 in reply to Cookie2217]

Same to you! You seem really nice and we have a lot in common. I actually have met many friends on here (mostly from the U.K.) I live in the States..and we first started sending private messages and then gradually moved on to email. I love cats! (Well..all animals)..Especially Rag Dolls, British Shorthairs (the Kind that Taylor Swift has), and Main Coins, Many of my cats have also been Tabby's. They have the sweetest personality. I have had cats my entire life. I don't have any currently because I am not happy where I live and cats can sense that. I want to give a cat a joyful and happy home and sadly am unable to do so right now.I would really enjoy chatting with you. I probably am not allowed to put my email on here so please feel free to DM me. 😊.

[Cookie2217 in reply to Eliana10]

Hi. I sent DM to you.

[Cookie2217]

Hi Mohammed. I suffer from loneliness too. I suffer with major depressive disorder PTSD and adjustment disorder too. I'm frustrated that I can't find quality mental health support in my area. I need sliding scale as I have no insurance right now either. Suffered a lot of loss lately too including my job, my place to love and a. now living in my sister's basement. Did you want information on psychotherapy Mohammed? I've done that and extremely helpful for me. It ended because I moved to PA and my therapist doesn't have a license to practice in PA.