My in ability to find a partner

[Eaglescardinal]

I'm depressed because of my inability to get a girlfriend I've tried all the usual suggestions dating apps friend of friends going to bars nothing works I get numbers but usually get stood up or ghosted I can't bear the thought of living another 50 years alone with our the love of a SO I have no reason to be depressed I am not homeless I am able to afford 2 meals a day I'm in college and passing but I see everyone else getting to be happy with their partners and people my age are getting married and I have never even had a girlfriend and as I get older that fact will become more off-putting to any women I meet. I also know that my depression comes from this because of the fact that the other day I did something that led to me hugging a girl and cuddling with her and it felt like a high for a couple of days . For a little while I felt like a normal person. I don't want to hear about how I'm stupid or anything else to that sort

[Agora1]

It's not stupid to want somebody in your life. After all, we are human and need that

human contact of another. At 21, you are far from over the hill in finding a S/O.

Love comes when we least expect it. You can't look for it, you can't pre-arrange for it,

it comes naturally when the right person comes along. Don't envy the people you

see already married and starting families. We never know what's really going on

in someone else's life. This is about you. I understand that you want to feel that

high again and you will. It's called Serotonin. The good feeling hormone.

It will happen when the time is right. My best to you. Don't rush a good thing xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

So true Agora I am nearly 6o I havnt given up, I feel the fate people will bring my soul mate along when the times right and to be honest the older I get the lease I'm bothered, I enjoy me time my romcom films my soaps just doing my own thing in the house I foccus in that 😊🧡✨🌻

[Turnipgirl in reply to Hidden]

There's Prince Pixie as well to take into consideration as he is a bossy boots and cats get jealous!

An old line Manager got married again when she was in her 60s so there's no age limit on it!

I do feel that these things happen when the time is right for you personally and looking back I feel that when I was in my 20s and 30s no one was to blame I just hadn't been meant to have had those things at that point in my life same as when I learned to drive at 43 rather than when I was 18!

I admit I had had episodes back in my 20s and 30s where I had been eaten up with jealousy over those who were getting married and starring families which was to do with the fact that I wanted those things for myself but had to wait for them!

I feel you appreciate things more for the simple fact that you were made to wait for them!

[Turnipgirl in reply to Agora1]

When I was in my 30s it really really ate at me did jealousy towards those who were getting married and starting families because they were things I wanted for myself!

I did get there eventually but I had to wait!

[litethatnevergoesout]

thank you Agora1 for beating me to be the first to reply, way more tactful and kinder than what I was originally going to say. beautiful reply the end eaglescardinal, put that in the bank.

[Agora1 in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

Signing off for the night dear. I'm sorry I got in my last reply for the day before you.

What's nice about this community is that there is always someone to take over and

being covered for 24/7. Goodnight dear xx

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Agora1]

Goodnight Agora, it was great bumping into you!

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I remember when I was in my 20s wanting to be with someone. And I asked my former therapist what could I do? My prospects weren't high. I don't have an education, I lived with my mom, I have anxiety and depression and has no job. My anxiety was really high at the time that it caused me great grief to leave the house. But I was longing for a connection. A companion. All my former therapist said was to look for a job. Like yeah sure I'll do that once I figured out this agoraphobia thing.

I was very depressed and lonely. I decided to join a fan forum. At first I was scared but I ended up making friends online. And ended up meeting them in real life. And I'm still friends with till this day. But still alone. Then during one of my insomnia nights. I happen to be on Facebook and noticed "a friend" online. Now I say it that way because I never really talked to him fully. I only added him because he was friends with other friends of mine. Anyways we started chatting online and then eventually lead to phone calls. We had a long distance relationship for a year and well we ended being together.

He moved to my state and we just bought a house together. I have been with him for 11yrs now.

So like agora1 said love can come at you in all sorts of ways and at any given moment.

Maybe try going an online group of your favorite hobby or something. You never know, you just may find your missing piece 🧩

Keep the faith

🫂❤️