Need inspiration

[JessMarie24]

At times, I find myself lost in my own thoughts, questioning why I'm relying on pills instead of prioritizing exercise. I know I need to lose weight, but I'm struggling to shake off this feeling of being stuck, which might be linked to depression. Could you provide some tips on how to motivate myself?

[Dusty1234]

I wish I had the words to motivate you, but sadly I am in the same boat weight wise and struggling that way. However, the whole medication thing is another story. I think of it like if I was a diabetic. It's a medical issue involving brain chemistry. Diabetics need insulin to help regulate their blood sugar, we need medications to help regulate are anxiety and depression. Unfortunately, it's easy to spiral when we are hurting. Many of us eat our feelings which causes weight gain. Then we get depressed about our weight, which makes us depressed and anxious. That leads us to eat more and move less. If you could embrace the medication as an help, maybe that can break the cycle. I wish you luck and we are here if you need help.

[JessMarie24 in reply to Dusty1234]

"Dusty, you're absolutely right! Using food to cope with our emotions can lead to weight gain. Your insight has truly opened my eyes, even though that wasn't your intention. Learning from others can be a powerful motivator, just as you've been for me. I'm grateful for the support of people like you on my journey. My husband struggles with diabetes and PTSD, and his reality can sometimes be overwhelming, which triggers my anxiety. However, the encouragement and support I receive from the people in my life, alongside my faith in God, help me navigate through these challenges without solely relying on medication. I'm determined not to let it spiral out of control again."

[Agora1]

JessMarie24, taking that first step out of being stuck, is the hardest part. Once

you do, motivation will get better as you see positive results.

Medication and Therapy have but a band-aid effect allowing you to process

the issues through therapy. It will not however give you the motivation, only

you can do that.

Never give up. If Plan A doesn't work, move to Plan B. There's always a way

to move forward. xx

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Agora1]

If Plan A doesn't work, move to Plan B.

I'm half-way between inspired and depressed that I'm running out of alphabet.

[JessMarie24]

Agora,

"I appreciate your perspective, and I'm grateful to have stumbled upon this chat group. It's a pleasant surprise, and I intend to make good use of it as a means of socializing and finding therapeutic support for myself. Thank you!

[Agora1 in reply to JessMarie24]

JessMarie24, I've been where you are. It took 5 years of Agoraphobia to get me

to where I am today. Back in control of my life. As we share our experiences, we

learn from others that it is not impossible. We're here for you xx

[Stilltrying2]

Hi JessMarie,

We all get stuck sometimes. I know that making changes is difficult, but it is how we move forward. I can tell you in my own personal journey, I have found that moving/walking every day is an essential part of maintaining my mental health.

[jassmint]

I'm struggling with the same issue, lack of motivation and weightloss lol. Speaking of which, have you tried the women weightloss support group on healthunlocked? It's basically a group of people recording and reporting their meal plans and exercises on a regular basis and encourages each other. They have a pretty good system there. Perhaps it would be helpful to find someone to progress with you.

I think another key to motivation is to stop thinking about it and just do it. Start somewhere, allow mistakes. Get out of one's mind and get in touch with reality. (althought I haven't done that yet lol, don't know how to make it a habit)

[Dusty1234 in reply to jassmint]

I didn't now about the women's weight loss support group. Thank you for that information. I'll start Monday. lol

[jassmint in reply to Dusty1234]

yea better ease into it☺️good luck

[JessMarie24 in reply to jassmint]

Thank for this information Jassmit! I’ll be posting back to you about my experience 😁

[jassmint in reply to JessMarie24]

Good luck👍no pressure tho, just have fun!

[Mohammad-341]

Watching YouTube exercise video motivates me.try it

[JessMarie24 in reply to Mohammad-341]

Thank you Mohammad for the suggestion I am going to try it as well.

[needtochangewithyou]

What helped and is still helping me is before i get out of bed, I smile and say thank you--aloud. Used to be angry all the time when I wake up cause I did not get a fair shake thois time around, now i still get frustrated, yet I am able to take action to move out of an unwanted state by doing something, anything positive. I am in the process of understanding that most of my issues are scaleable and I have just not been willing to get as granular for change as I need. As far as weight, fasting changed my life, when I overindulge now, when I realize I have cylced back to my old story, I do not berate myself, now I just take one less bite of food or one less sip of sugar. All that said, what you need may take 1 day or 100 years, know it is within you already, you. just need to open your heart--I am assuming you have trust issues, and know this for a fact, You Got This!

[JessMarie24 in reply to needtochangewithyou]

Thanks for your response! I actually never thought I had trust issues, can you point out why you think so?

[needtochangewithyou in reply to JessMarie24]

Seems like you are somewhat stuck in thinking about acting on your goals and not trusting yourself you can meet the challenges that will come with the change we all want! Not to deep, a basic thing that I have and there was for sure projection on my part.

[Zhangliqun]

Generally speaking, in the context of things that will help folks like us, like getting up and exercising or getting up, getting out and being with people, etc., the times you least feel like doing them is the time you most need to do them.

So it's very simple -- get up, go, and do. Not doing these things will not only not make things better, it will make them worse. On the other hand, doing them will have many positive effects, even in the short term. Smash through the inertia of passivity and isolation and make it happen. Along therapy and medication if necessary, there is no other way to get better.

[SameTimeTomorrow7]

Try changing your thoughts. It sounds too simple, I know. What worked for me was Norman Vincent Peale's book "The Power of Positive Thinking." I'm not exaggerating when I say that the book changed my life. As to exercising, just start, one step at a time. The internet is full of exercise routines which can help you get going. All the best.

[MetalEnjoyer in reply to SameTimeTomorrow7]

I 100% agree with you. Especially recently. You can't get anything done for yourself if you just insult, or degrade yourself. For me I've been working on not saying bad things about myself and why I' m improving myself. That's for myself and my 2 girls, wife and daughter. I tell myself if I don't go to the gym it will only hurt me and my family. Especially since I have sleep apnea and getting out of bed can literally be almost impossible.

[MetalEnjoyer]

Hey recently I started going to the gym. I'd recommend setting sorta daily micro goals. It's one way how I deal with my ADHD especially when I'm in a sit pit. For me its gym every single day. Even if its 10 minutes on a bike. Also one thing I read on the internet is that biking is fantastic for low intensity exercise. So if your not physically fit starting up the routine you will have a harder time accidently over doing it and hurting yourself. Weight loss is defiantly not easy. But building muscle and burning calories will open you up to more room with what you eat and its a good start. Plus for me when I'm depressed and in a hole maybe filled with anger that I have a lot of. As I said to my friend. There is nothing better than pumping your anger into a bunch of weights for being too heavy. Although I wouldn't say that mind set works for everyone. Its just good to keep positivity to sticking to the routine and in turn you than can start working harder on what you eat to manage weight. And at the end of the day after a few months of pushing for that healthiness. You will feel better than ever. Getting out of bed will actually be little easier. It has for me. There are bad days though there always is and its good to tell yourself "if today sucks, tomorrow will be better and ill tell myself that again". Finishing up with a few last things. Positive mindset is important and don't project anything negative onto yourself because just like so many people are. You are amazing and capable to do anything if you set your mind to it. Hell if your feeling down and bad one day, try and go lift some super heavy weights and push yourself. It does and has worked for me when something ruins my day to bring it back on track and positive. I also want to say you can try and start taking vitamins like B12 or just take a daily woman's vitamin supplement. Sometimes its not what we eat, but what we don't eat enough of. Jess if your ever stuck again don't forget that its not black or white, but gray. Weight loss is one hell of a struggle. I've had a BMI of 42 since late highschool. So you're not alone and if your husband can exercise together with you that most definitely can help you both along.