Holidays

[Mskitty21]

How’s everyone holding up with upcoming holidays? I am so grumpy about it this year.. I wish someone would do all the stuff for me and I just chill.

I was SA’d right before Christmas many years ago and with the added pressures that the Holidays always bring some years I just want it to be over with.

Best of luck to us all 😉

[Arymretep]

The trouble is we seem to have forgotten what the true meaning of Christmas really is , and now it’s an excuse to spend spend spend and get stressed instead of relaxing and enjoying whatever family life we have.

[Rufus07 in reply to Arymretep]

I totally agree

[Nothing_but_books]

It's no fun for me either. I used to bake all kinds of cookies and my house smelled wonderful.

I feel "less than," trying to make due with store cookies that mostly taste of chemicals.

Making peace with who I am now is difficult.

[Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books]

❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight]

Look who popped up! 😊

[Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books]

Love you! 😘 I popped up! 😆

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight]

I know! Good morning!

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[Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books]

Good morning!!! 💜💜💜🍪🍪🍪💜💜💜

[Mskitty21 in reply to Starrlight]

Hey friend 🩷 Good to see you… how are you?

[Starrlight in reply to Mskitty21]

hey ya my friend! I’m struggling did a lot today and can’t seem to wind down and chill. Oh well a lot will get done then when I feel I have to chill I can do so more easily without as much on my plate and mind I hope.

How are you doing? What’s going on in your life?

Best luck 🍀 to all of us, the holidays are creeping up and I can’t easily even keep track of the days ugh I need things to just stop.

[Mskitty21 in reply to Starrlight]

Been doing ok. Up and down a lot since my Dad died. I keep reminding myself things will get better on a steady basis again eventually I just have to hang in there on the bad days. And I’ve been doing better at journaling and writing down the things I’m grateful for.

Generally it’s just a feeling of unhappiness that comes over me so often. And I have to be careful not to fall into old thinking habits or bad coping skills and keep doing the things that make me actually better.

Glad you’re staying busy lol… and yes! So much will be done when you wind down 😂 Just try not to over do it!

We will all make it through the holidays I’m sure… it’s just so good to know I have people here when the going gets tough.

🩷🩷🩷🩷

[Starrlight in reply to Mskitty21]

Omg when did your dad die? My dad is 87 and he and I were discussing death today. He just got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. I took care of my mom who also had early onset and I can do it again. I love him soooooo much I’m shedding tears because I just know I won’t have as long as I want with him it would be forever if I had a say. We will as dual watch his fav football team play Sunday.

Yes it’s great to know all of these beautiful peeps are here for us and we for them. 💕❤️💕

[Mskitty21 in reply to Starrlight]

My Dad died this summer. It was a bit of a complicated relationship but I miss him. I do wish I would be able to call him Christmas Day and talk 🩷

[Starrlight in reply to Mskitty21]

yeah oh yeah I wish I could see my mom again while on earth. She did visit me in a dream though. ❤️

[CLB1125]

Holidays are bad for me since my kids are grown. They will be extra difficult this year. We had to say goodbye to our dog today.

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to CLB1125]

So sorry for your loss CLB of your sweet fur baby. Hug.

[Starrlight in reply to CLB1125]

I’m so sorry, CLB. ((((((((((Hugging you and your beautiful dog)))))))))))

[Mskitty21 in reply to CLB1125]

I’m so sorry to hear that 🥺 Sending comforting thoughts your way 🩷

[SayNOtoPanic]

sorry to hear Mskitty. Take it easy just do what you feel in the moment even if something small. Trauma definitely doesn’t fully leave even with therapies. So dates and things associated with the trauma could totally be triggering. Good vibes to you.

[Mskitty21 in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

Thank you 🩷

[Starrlight]

I hear ya! This year my family will focus more on experiences than getting the ‘stuff’. And even then, it can still be stressful to try to fulfill what I have envisioned in my mind so trying to go with the flow and just chill as much as possible.

[Mskitty21 in reply to Starrlight]

This is what I’m trying to do….

[Starrlight in reply to Mskitty21]

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[Roxylox]

I just wish it was Christmas fay and the turkey was successfully cooked. Trying to think of presents for my adult children also stresses me out. I'm with you!

[Mskitty21 in reply to Roxylox]

My kids are all grown as well. Last year I did good on presents but I’m not feeling it this year…. We’re buying all their plane tickets home and than a few small presents. That’s it. Going to just try and spend time together and relax.

[Roxylox in reply to Mskitty21]

Plane tickets home are a great present! My 2 remaining in the country are just an hour's drive away, so not an option for me.

[Mskitty21 in reply to Roxylox]

I honestly would prefer them being an hr away lol. But it’s probably better they are not… I’m a little clingy 😂 I’d be visiting ALL the time

[Roxylox in reply to Mskitty21]

Aw, enjoy your Christmas get together anyhow.

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I have to work more to make up for all money spent. I usually eat too much. Gain weight. Really not the best me! Tired and exhausted but at least making others happy. My boss gets somebody who wants to work and family get treated. I wish someone would treat me