wasting

I feel I’m wasting my life away. I’m tired of loneliness. I wish I was a different person and didn’t waste my late childhood and teenage years with false hopes. I wish I’ve finally accomplished my dreams and at least try to enjoy my young adulthood life. I wish that I have friends to hang out out with, I’ve never made any friends since I was 9.

I’ve already took all of the advices and it’s still nothing.

Any Professional help still doesn’t help me with this. 988 doesn’t help either. I’ve already tried and I’m tired to keep looking for help.

[Roukaya]

Good morning

You sound very much like me and loneliness is a difficult emotion as we are all social animals .

I am alone and it is important to try to create connections with others and interact with social groups or trips that take you away from home .

I am observing Ramadan at the moment so I don’t go out as much hence my loneliness and anxiety is triggered.

It takes confidence to build yourself up and to start to take the initiative but I have learnt also the only person who can help you is you .

I have been told at times I come across as being a little repetitive so it is best I try to help others as well .

[Hidden in reply to Roukaya]

Hi,

I know that I have suffered social anxiety and I know that I’m very lonely. I’ve tried taking every advices to improve my social anxiety since I was 12 and it’s still hasn’t been improved since.

[Roukaya in reply to Hidden]

Good evening

I hope you are well.

As they Rome was not built in a day .

It takes courage and confidence to keep trying .

I am incredibly lonely and I have tried many times to make connections, but the right connections will happen if you Leroy trying .

I have been rejected so many times and those who have rejected me , I realise they simply were not the same path or not meant to be .

It is very hard to keep trying but if you wish to come out of your loneliness it for you to try and the right people will be there for you at the right time .

Never give up and do not fear failure but have the courage to keep trying .

[jassmint]

If making friends doesn't work for you, try other things. Read, pray, jog, play music instruments, play chess, play games, whatever works for you. Just don't do things that will harm yourself in the long run, like alcohol, gamling, drugs and relationships with bad ppl etc.

I know you've probably left the forum already, I'm leaving this comment just in case you come back to check messages. Please don't fixate on things that you can't have in life. If you don't have it, you don't have it. Accept the reality. Try to find a replacement or a distraction. Get your eyes on specific problems, like "how to find a good therapist", "is my therapist really helping me" and "how tf should I pay for my therapy".

Nobody can give you one piece of advice and solve all your life problems. There is no magic word for that. You are a sinking ship (I am too, and many others in this forum) that needs a lot of patchwork to get better and carefully navigate through the iceburgs. If others can't patch your ship for you, then you'll have to do it yourself.

[Hidden in reply to jassmint]

Hello,

Thanks for the advice, I get that my issues are ridiculous, but I’m just getting tired of being alone and never getting experience with having friends. Especially when my career requires networking and building friendships. Never had plans on drugs, alcohol, gambling, especially being in relationships with bad people since I never good making any sort of connection in the first place.

I don’t think it’s good to act “just accept the reality” when my dream career requires socializing and networking. I’ve already “accepted the reality” of being ugly.

Thank you for the advice but I’m sorry for disagreeing with you.

Hope you have a good weekend.

[jassmint in reply to Hidden]

Hi shyynoir, I don't think your issues are ridiculous, and I don't think you won't have friends. As for "accept the reality", I mean it more like: don't regret the past or feel bad about the lack of people skills; more like "Ok I don't have many friends. So what? Still a healthy good youngster with tons of potential". And I would say that if you currently can't receive strength from friendship, then try getting strength from doing other stuff, cuz you gotta get strength from something.

I never meant to say that you should just give up making friends, although I can see how my words could be interpreted that way. My sincere apologies if it made you uncomfortable, that was not the best choice of words.