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Hello, My name is Kassandra. I’m 24 years old and I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in 2014. I’ve been struggling for longer than that but I’ve always kept it to myself and I didn’t want to seek treatment until I had full legal ownership of myself. My family still doesn’t believe that it’s real, I never really had any true friends I could share anything with. I’ve never felt so Abandoned and alone. But I still hope that I’ll make a good friend that knows what I’m going through.

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Hello Kasandra and welcome :) Are you in the UK? Its snowing A LOT at the moment ! Gemma x

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Hi Gemma! Thank you for the warm welcome. I’m in the US and it’s raining A LOT currently lol a mix of rain and snow. Kassandra x

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why Doesn’t your family believe it isn’t real? Are they Christian Scientists? It has been raining and snowing here all day too. Nor Easter? They are calling it a bomb cyclone now.

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Because they say “You’re young what are you complaining about?” Or better yet “it’s just a phase” or that I’m just being a “negative Nancy”.

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Keep praying.

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Thank you ❤️

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Wow. That is rough. My family was always understanding and very supportive. Maybe a doctor can explain what you are going through to your family? They might believe a doctor?

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A few months into the start of my treatment I had my family come with me to visit my psychiatrist and he explained to them my condition but they still continue to say these things and act that way. It’s difficult to know that my family unacknowledges my struggle.

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That's awesome that you took your family with you to your psychiatrist...SAD that they still don't believe you. Their in denial because it's something they don't want to deal with.

I'm having the same problem. My kids isolate me, it's easier that way. My best friend lectures me cause it's easier.

So I don't speak to others about it. Maybe show your family this website so they can see the REAL struggle we have?

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That is a heavy burden. At least you did everything you could to explain it to them. Some families have a hard time acknowledging mental illness within the family. They view it as a weakness for the entire family or fear the stigma that society casts on mental illness. Years ago they would just send the family member off to a state institution. Out of sight out of mind. You know it is real. Dealing with your family will make you a more compassionate and empathetic person towards all those who are misunderstood. It is horrible that you must endure this but you are in good company even Jesus was misunderstood.

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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I can relate to what you said about family members in a way. I'm sure my family believes me but they don't understand the extent of what I'm going through. Also same about not having true friends. And same about being lonely lol Ok I can say same to most of your post. I'm hoping to meet a similar friend too, so message me if you want to support each other :)

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I’ve had a couple family members with similar attitudes like “Why can’t you just snap out of it?!” As if it’s that easy. Thankfully I have family with the same or similar issues. Keep your long range goals in the back of your mind. It helps to hold onto those goals, no matter how slowly you feel like you are getting towards them.

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Hi there! I'm Kacey. Nice to meet you. I also suffer horrible depression and crippling anxiety. Welcome to the site!! There's a lot of caring ppl on here that will help you. I don't make friends either so if you want a friend I'm here for you!😁😁

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Hello! sorry you’re going through that. I developed anxiety very young too and it was honestly difficult dealing with my family as well. I relapsed into severe anxiety again after it being controlled for a good few years and I’m 21 now. Feel free to message me. I understand being alone and having no one talk to <3 Please find help soon its a huge relief and weight off shoulders

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I’ve been getting treatment for about 4 years now. My medication works and I have plenty of self- care habits (yoga, exercise, healthy diet, journaling, reading, learning to crochet etc.) But I really just felt isolated without knowing anyone that can understand and at the very least not think that I’m just being weak.

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Hi, it’s definitely not easy to struggle with what you’re going through, but you’re not alone . Although it’s easier said than done, try to get out a little and surround yourself with others that can relate. Maybe a support group in your area or therapy. My Doctor suggested I exercise, try yoga, meditation and long walks. Also to adopt a dog... I did and the unconditional love from a pet has helped me so much. I occasionally do meditation and that has helped me to.

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Hiiii! I think is very hard what you are going through but even with family support I have learned that anxiety is something that we need to accept and learn how to leave with each of us, we can support each other when we understand what you are talking about because we have felt it too but for the rest of the world anxiety is not real and it is just in our mind so we are here for you my dear :) you are not alone!!! Just start to accept that you have anxiety and try to think that this is not going to hurt you

I am trying to learn how to live with it every single day of my life ....

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Thank you so much for your kind, supportive words everyone ❤️ It means a lot to me to really see that i’m Not alone and i’m Not the only one learning to live and manage these conditions no matter how much my brain wants to tell me otherwise.

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Hi, I'm also struggling with crippling anxiety and depression. I am fear of fear I can relate it is not easy especially if you don't have the support. People of family members may not understand but with time and prayer probably they will. Thank God for this site we are here to encourage each other.

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