This has taken my life from me. I tried to get help for the first time when I was 23. But, sadly, I chose the wrong person. I was at the Dr for another reason, but since I couldn't afford to see a Dr very often, I decided I better bring it up then. I told him I was afraid something was wrong. I told him I had mental illness on both sides of my family. My dad had paranoid schizophrenia and my mom's dad (papa) had manic depression. The Dr rolled his eyes and said "I gave up on treating them a long time ago. The manics won't take their meds because they feel too good when they're on their upswings, and the schitzes won't take their meds because they think you're trying to poison them. " Then he had a good laugh. I felt humiliated for even bringing it up. It was at least 10 years later before I ever tried to get help again. Now I'm 52, sicker than ever, and am faced with the fact that I missed out on my life.
Why keep living when it's almost cert... - Anxiety and Depre...
Why keep living when it's almost certainly too late
I am so sorry you were treated that way by a dumb£%#!
My heart goes out to you ❤️ I feel that way sometimes too that I missed out on living a certain way but I believe our lives are not in vain and it’s never too late. I feel like even helping one person in life is a life worth lived. Maybe recall any good you’ve done , and good times you’ve experienced and hold onto them as you move forward.
There are always lessons to be learned even in the worst of circumstances!
A lesson I learned when I got evicted last year was not to dismiss uneasy feelings as silly and paranoid unless proven otherwise!
I had seen all that coming back in the June of 2021 when they were on about selling the place but all that fell through so when those letters came through back in the July of 2022 telling everyone they were being evicted I can't say I was surprised but still it was a shock though and the couple in the front flat had got ever so upset over it and I had tried to comfort them.
I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. I've been through a lot of doctors and therapists too but you have to keep trying until you find a good one. You have to be your own advocate. I'm 61 and just now starting to figure out that I have a lot of life traumas that I've never talked about or dealt with and this past year I had hip replacement surgery, 3 deaths, and then we moved to a new town. All major life changes. I haven't been dealing well with it, barely survived, wanted to die multiple times. I'm still struggling to get established all over again in a new town, meet new people, and try to feel accepted when I feel like a total mental case. This group is a great place to get support. Feel free to private chat with me if you need to. Have a blessed day.
What a horrible thing to go through. I'm so sorry you were treated this way.
I look back and feel the same. My circumstances were different than yours but the end result is the same, time missed.
There's only one way to go and that's forward. I hope you can find a doctor that is more educated and has a better bedside manner. You don't have to miss the rest of your life
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Thing is you can only do your best with the experience and knowledge you have at the time.
As long as you know you tried your best then that's all that matters!
I am so sorry! I am 41 and also feel like I wasted a lot of time but I just have to keep looking forward and take it dad by day. I only focus on one day at a time and make it worth it. Make sure I don’t waste today and then tomorrow I will worry about tomorrow
Seriously, I am sorry that you have suffered for so long. You have made it so long in life, and I think that has tremendous value anyway. You have persevered. I hope that you are now in a place where you can look back and decide to have no more regrets. I hope that you can also have compassion for yourself if you did or did not do things that you regret and understand what your motivations were. We are only human after all.
Today can be the point where you start living. It is never too late. Thank you for hanging in there through all of the years. I wish you peace, hope, and strength in your journey.☮️
I missed some things also but it’s not over yet. Keep battling. If it all fails check yourself into a hospital and they will do the full battery of tests and maybe you find relief.
Money wise most any hospital will take a payment that you can do. I’m paying $31 a month for mine and found 89-90% relief for a year now
Great luck
Much love
Craig
Hey How are you holding up?
Hi. I am still drawing breath so so far so good. 🙃 Thank you for your encouragement. As my anxiety level goes higher and higher, it seems to bring on agoraphobic type symptoms. So I have become so isolated. It's just great to feel like I've made some amazing connections.
I set up some outings for myself today for the rest of the week because I have been isolating a little. I have to get myself going or else agoraphobia will get to me.
It's lovely isn't it when you plan things to look forward to no matter how small yhey are!
I guess. Yes I think I’ll take that attitude! I ‘get’ to go places, not I ‘have’ to go places. Thanks for the tip.
No experiences are wastes if you learn your lesson from them!
Without failures and mistakes in life there is no learning and you only fail when you don't learn lessons from it for the future.
As long as you know in your heart you are trying your best then there's nothing more you can do.
Wow, I'm really glad I decided to make that post. It was, at best, very out of character for me. But your replies brought a bit of peace for me, thanks. I struggled with feelings of coming across as being full of self pity or just a "hysterical woman", so thank you all so much for your grace and class.
Hi Seriously…, Please never give up! As long as you are still alive there is hope. Always.
This hit home. I'm 40 and my mum and sister unwell , beat me and I am so sick. So dizzy , anxious ectopic heartbeats, no thyroid no gallbladder feel stress is killing me. I just want the faint feeling to stop. I feel I missed out on life too
((((((((Hug))))))))) and love to you ❤️
It sounds like you went to a bad therapist. It is true that some people with those disorders do the things that he said, but that doesn’t mean that they all do, and, in fact, many people with those disorders take their medicines and do fairly well.
Also, the fact that there is a history in the family of these disorders doesn’t necessarily mean that you have them. Do you have any symptoms of bipolar disorder or schizophrenia?
I would definitely try to find another therapist I would take a more serious interest in your problems . In the meantime, you might want to read a good book on cognitive behavioral therapy, which may give you a better perspective on your thoughts and feelings.
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