new identity

[97Bunny11]

Would it be odd to change myself entirely to detach myself from my past? I wish I could change my name, my face, my whole identity and live a new. I would be a totally different person. I could even live in a new country where nobody knows me. But in reality, that probably wouldn’t work with my family. They would probably reject the whole idea and still call me by my old name. And I have a huge family, so even if miraculously my household family is cool with it (they never would be, lol) my extended family would have a field day with their criticisms.

I wish I could be reborn or something. I would do life completely different. Completely.

[Agora1]

You're only 26 97Bunny11 and so you have time to become who you really want to be.

Unless you are hiding from the law, it doesn't require you changing your face, your name

or your whole identity. You can become a different person by changing the way you think

and act. You can set goals for yourself, change your personality to a more positive person.

Get rid of the negativity or the things you don't like about yourself. Of course the family

may not like who you become however people you meet will be drawn to the new you.

I did it myself when I was your age. I was shy and introverted and didn't like who I was.

I was constantly under my mother's wing not being able to make decisions for myself.

It took my "flying from the nest" to become a self efficient person who retained her

self image, self esteem and self confidence. It was a learning process. It didn't require

hiding from myself but rather just the opposite. Blossoming to the woman I was meant

to be. Follow your dreams and you will become someone you never thought you would

be, You could do life again without being reborn. You've Got This Bunny xx

[Ellamaye in reply to Agora1]

Just to explain lol I changed my name because I was pregnant with my daughter and wanted a fresh start from my crazy mother lol I was making sure she wouldn't be in my daughters life or mine. X I definitely wasn't hiding from the law 🤣

[Agora1 in reply to Ellamaye]

Ellamaye, sorry dear, we don't always know the issue/situation behind people's

thoughts. I'm sorry you have experienced this kind of stress in your life and your

daughters. xx

[Ellamaye in reply to Agora1]

Thankfully not my daughters x the name change worked lol

[97Bunny11 in reply to Agora1]

Whoa, this was super inspiring. Thank you Agora, truly. The whole face change thing was more of a fantasy (no way I could afford that anyway, lol) but the name change I was actually considering. But you’re right, working on myself is the better option. I think I always knew that, but changing my name seemed like the quicker approach…. But that would honestly just hurt my family, considering the meaning behind my name and why they chose it (plus, I like my name, so that would suck ‘cause I would miss it).

I know I have to try and put in the work. I want to be better. A better me.

I’ll remember your kind words throughout my journey. Thank you again. You’ve been so kind on my last posts as well, so thank you for that too. Take care ❤️

[Ellamaye]

Maybe you could have a fresh start instead of a whole identity change? Move somewhere new ?

I changed my birth name when I was 20 officially at a solicitors and never looked back it takes time to pass but eventually my old identity faded into the past and apart from my birth certificate I don't think there's a record of it now.

As for changing appearance that would be alot more tricky lol and probably painful

[ladybyrd]

We all make choices we wished we could go back and change and start anew. I feel I have to protect others from myself. I don't won't to say things to bring more embarrassments to myself and to them. I bring enough embarrassment for me just being me. The only way I know to be reborn is through a Man that gave us eternal life and promised to always be with us. I don't fully understand all of that, but for me, when I accepted Him in my life, I was never alone from that point on. No matter what was going on around me. I do have a new identity, but life on this earth gets in the way and clouds those things that is true. No matter what happens good or bad He promised to never leave us. You are beautiful just you being you and so am I.

[Trainchaser]

I like that term reborn

[catsrock]

I think you should do whatever the hell you want and what feels right for you.