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Going through a break up… Any advice?

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My relationship of 7 years just ended unexpectedly. . My fiancé woke up one day and decided he was missing out on other things in life.. the club life, etc. He no longer wants a relationship. I’ve given everything. I thought we were growing together. I thought we had a future. We were planning for a child next year…we had a wedding date set.

Now, I just have so many emotions running through my mind. Haven’t been eating well, can’t sleep. I thought I was going to work today, but I ended up breaking down… We live together! What do I do? Where do I start?

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kenster1

if he wants out because he`s missing club life remind him of where the front door is and take his keys on his way out. all of us like a day/night but I wouldn`t be putting it before my relationship.

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Beevee in reply to kenster1

Agree with that and think the young lady's fiance is very short-sighted and she will be much better off without him. I know it will hurt and emotions are raw but things will get better. It just won't feel like that to her at this time.

As the old saying goes, when one door closes, another one opens.

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FutureChangeAgent14 in reply to kenster1

Thank you for the advice❤️ Funny thing is, he doesn’t want to leave the apartment. Even went as far as saying “we can still be friends…”

Update: I’ve moved out and will be stopping contact today.

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LoveforAll41

I am sorry that you are going through this heartbreak FCA. I think that the first step is to let yourself grieve. That is a lot to have lost and there is no shame in mourning the lost relationship. As the others have said, you will find someone better who will have the same committment you do... it is hard to feel that in the moment of course. Obviously you will want to move out to move on. Remember to nurture yourself at this time. I wish you hope, peace, and strength.

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FutureChangeAgent14 in reply to LoveforAll41

Thank you for the kind words ❤️ I grieved on day one. And again on day 4, for hours. Today is day 5 and I’ve removed all my things from the apartment. Part of me is angry, but another part is just ready to look ahead.

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