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Hi guys, it's my first day here. So, I have been dealing with anxiety from a long time and it's hard for me to function everyday without panicking. Moreover, recently I had a break up,and ended a 5 month old relationship. My ex wanted to have sex but I was not ready yet,and I wanted him to wait but he was impatient and saying the same thing again and again. So we broke up. Now I feel like being used and it's painful.

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AnxiousSilver

F&F, welcome to this site.

This community from the short time that I have been here, has been both positive and supportive to me, and there are a lot of good people here.

Take a look around (after reading my next post), and hopefully you will find other topics/replies that you can relate with. :)

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AnxiousSilver

If you're not ready, then you're not ready, and you did the right thing by not sleeping with him.

You'd be feeling a whole lot worse if you would have slept with him, and if he would have broken up with you (for whatever reason) afterwards.

You did the right thing, and you need to recognize that.

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If you don't see it now, you will later give yourself credit for doing the right thing.

& Whatever breakup pain that you are currently feeling will get better over time.

As each day that goes by, the pain becomes less and less. :)

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Pinkclo27 in reply to AnxiousSilver

Yeah, these feelings will pass eventually. Thank you for the support :-)

You did the right thing!!

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Jorja70

If he really loved you and wanted the best for you, he would have understood and been patient with you. When you aren't ready, don't ever let anyone pressure you into anything. I've had men belittle me, beg me, threaten to leave, but I stood my ground and refused. If they wanted what was best for me, then they could wait till I was ready. You need someone that is compassionated and would help you. I have know many men and women that thought sex was the "all in all" deal and they were too narrow minded to understand the other ones feeling on the matter. I went 8 years without it and it didn't hurt me. I dated off and on and when they realized there would be no sex, they left. One, it didn't matter but after a while with him it was dull but he was dull when I met him. But at least he understood me. Just do what you have to do for yourself. You might get a little lonesome but it is your life and only you can say what is what. Do what is best for you.

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Pinkclo27 in reply to Jorja70

Thank you for the words , I really needed to hear this ❣️.That kind of relationship isn't meant for me anyway.

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Midori

You are not in the wrong. Sex should be between Consenting adults, not one trying to bully another into it. You did the right thing.

Cheers, Midori

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Pinkclo27 in reply to Midori

Yeah,that was becoming toxic anyway.

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kenster1

hi sorry to hear of your breakup sounds a bit like he wasn`t respecting you and your body and made it more about what he wanted.

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