Depressed and Needs Help

[DepressedKYGuy]

My wife left me about a month ago and is starting to date again and I'm in a really deep depression. I'm not sure what to do. I'm hurting and I miss her but I also know it's my fault she left. I carry that blame. I don't know what to do. I just need help.

[Gealtachta]

Hi DepressedKYguy,

I have been in the same situation as you! There is no way that everything is your fault, a relationship is two people. You are in the right place to get support.

You need to give yourself time to feel the pain of your loss and move through it to the other side. I was the devastated party once. I know it seems like you will feel like this forever, but you won’t. Give yourself time to heal and find some things that make you happy. I know it is easier said than done depending on your emotional state. I was so devastated that it took some time and work to get past the pain. I did it, you can too!

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[Celtic27]

Hi there sorry to hear you and your wife seprated the blame thing is a two way thing dont go round beating yourself up about could it be that you just grew apart and no one seen it coming ! Of course you will miss her but if its not been working out your better off apart i wish you all the best going forward !

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It's difficult, I am in this position and it's been many years now and we are good friends and spend family time .still very regularly with our grown up kids.It hurts but I would rather her be happy than not be happy

[pragyaan]

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[Midori]

Hello; What you are experiencing is a form of grief; don't fight it. It will pass. This is not your fault, as is shown by the fact she is already dating again.

Try to accept what's past is past.

There is a little saying I use, 'Yesterday is History; Tomorrow is a Mystery, All we have is the Present, and that is a Gift.'

If you think on it you will understand that you cannot change History, but you can learn from it and not repeat any mistakes you may have made, You don't know what is to come, so live in the Present and accept the Gift of the Now in order to sort out your feelings.

Missing the person who has left is normal, it will pass, but don't rush this step, take things cautiously so you don't put your foot in the same hole next time.

Cheers, Midori