Think this site may help.

[Pyrite]

I’ve never posted to a site like this before. Been dealing with depression all my life. Sometimes I wonder if it runs in my family. Lately it all seems worse. After living in the south for years, moved northeast & a few miles from the Canadian border to be close to loved ones. Since then life has become so hard. Very small, rundown town, one grocery store, a Dollar General, drugstore, library. Closed, unfriendly community. No activities, services, no places to go. Met my neighbors & although pleasant, they keep to themselves. I have been so lonely most of the time I’ve lived here. My husband, grown daughter & 4 cats & a dog live with me. My husband is pretty deaf & spends usually, no kidding, all day in the garage. So hard to talk to, because most of time he doesn’t understand what was said & becomes angry. My daughter works a lot & deserves her own life. The rest of many family here, although they so wanted me to move here, I seldom see them. I have a bad leg, wear a brace, so there a lot of things I cannot do. I have two very good friends, who live a long way away, but we keep in touch online & phone. My best friend is dying. I recently got a therapist. So good to have someone to talk too! I will not give up, so I try. Take antidepressants. Grateful that I found this site. Believe it’s something good. ❤️

[LoveforAll41]

That sounds like a very big letdown to move and not have the connections that you were hoping to Pyrite. It sounds like you are doing a good thing and reaching out for help. I need to do a better job of going to therapy, especially when I think that I am good to stop. I believe there are a lot of resources online, including live meetings where you can have that connection. I keep trying as well and won't give up ❤️

[Pyrite in reply to LoveforAll41]

Yes, getting a therapist was a big step for me. Found out virtual counseling was free but in person is not. Have been looking online for any help. So hard to reach out. And then just don’t know what to say. It’s so nice to connect with people here. And yes, we keep trying. So many things I could do to feel better. Getting started is the hard part. Thank you for your reply. Together we are better❤️

[PuzzleArt]

I wanted to post something about loneliness tonight and found your comments here. I was helped today by reading and replying to posts on adaa.org, and also I had an unexpected interaction with people in person today. (In the future, I want to be careful not to give advice, when I'm the last person who should be giving it.) I needed to tell people who are lonely: you are some of the bravest people on earth. It isn't always easy, even with plans to solve it. My apartment has a combination office, recreation room and laundry. There usually isn't much recreation going on, though. It is a small laundry with only 5 machines. There is a room with boxes of picture puzzles and a bookshelf with some old books. I went there today, because I was told that a woman living here picks up food at the food bank once a week or two weeks, and puts it on the "free" table, where people can put clothes or household objects they want to give away. I really am not short of food. However, I used to like shopping for groceries and cooking. Because of a recent injury, I can't drive to the store, or carry a lot of packages from the car to my apartment. I have someone to do that for me, but I miss the trips to the store. I like shopping, and I would always meet someone there to talk to briefly........ A long time for me to get to the point, but.....a lot of people showed up today. I got to talk to them as we were picking out different items of food we wanted. I can carry a few items in my walker) One woman told me a good time of day to show up there in order to socialize. It was a very friendly group. I really needed that company, and didn't even realize the half of how much! I had expected to be alone all day. The contrast showed me how serious a problem it is when you don't have anyone to talk to, and I believe meeting in person is even better than the phone group I participate in. I wasn't tense or nervous that I would say something wrong, because people showed up gradually, and we were all occupied doing something.... Loneliness is sad and a burden, and the people on this site who talk about it and share with people like me who read what they post, are really brave, and spread their courage to others.

[Tealpillow in reply to PuzzleArt]

Aww this made me so happy to read! I’m so glad you had a positive day and people showed up for you!

[Pyrite in reply to Tealpillow]

Yes, sounds like a wonderful day for you. I’m very happy for you. I wish there were things around here like that. But I’m always looking. Maybe there will be something, someday. I always hope.❤️

[SoporRose]

That sounds like a painful situation. Is it worth staying there? Could you move somewhere you would be less isolated and happier?

I’m so sorry your move turned out this way.

[Pyrite in reply to SoporRose]

I would love to move but don’t think I can get enough for this place to buy another. I often feel like I really screwed myself & it’s hopeless. I just have to keep trying, but as we all know, it’s so had.

[SoporRose in reply to Pyrite]

I am in a similar situation. I wish I could tell you that I found a great way to solve it and am now living the dream in my beach house surrounded by family and friends and perfect weather, but I’m still dreaming the life. I hope, though, that something happens to improve your lot. Could you get your husband to get hearing aids as a start?