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I need an advice as a new intern

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I am an intern in the finance industry. One of my new colleagues joined 8 months ago who came from a different place that has a different dialect altogether and she thus had a huge language barrier. She is also an intern but from a finance field and just starting in the field. Our office is a small office in terms of employee numbers but there is a huge office politics in which she is becoming the target. We had spoken multiple times about politics and I wanted to help her from my side. Once while my senior was talking to me about her and made a very snide personal comment about the new colleague. The original conversation started with me softly trying to defend her. The colleague was being ignored and ill treated. I wanted a solution to help her. After getting off work I told her about the snide comment with the intention to tell her that this treatment stems not from office but personal level and wanted to tell her that the best choice would be to ignore it for time being and get a better job. She has references in the big companies in this industry. But she is taking no step from what I know towards actually using those references even after repeated suggestions from me and another colleague and is reluctant to leave this place. I too am working here for financial reasons and cannot lose this job. I expressly told her not to bring this topic of comment out. Well she informed our boss about the comment and the treatment for her increased. Due to my compulsion I cannot get involved further as my senior has further threatened me . I believe somewhere I am responsible for the trouble this new colleague is facing. I tried to help today by slightly informing my boss that he should speak in her language which we all understand too so she could understand. It backfired and he kind of got angry at her .My intentions were just to help her. Some negative things here would be. I am facing difficulties in studies right now and have failed a particular exam. I just requested her to study together and she kind of swiftly and smoothly refused it. To elaborate, we were going to meet on the weekend which we decided on Monday. She kind of said yes and never brought the topic back as we don't meet everyday. The weekend she apologised for it and immediately started talking about her own needs again. It kind of seemed to me that she is only contacting me whenever she needs me. Also in the office situation at the beginning she was being given work but she kind of went against a very employee's word when they told her about a work related thing. She also kind of compares herself with other interns and compares work that she is being given lower kind of work. But unfortunately as interns we sometimes receive work for which we are overqualified. But it's how the industry works and nothing particularly against her. I don't know what to do further. I want to stop causing any further trouble to her and help her. Should I stop interfering in this matter or what should I do?

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I spent my career in financial services. I get the stress of those jobs and the expectations are high. I really hate saying this, but I have been at al levels of big and small companies......challenging a more senior person almost never wins. I have watched it time and time again. Employees trying to rally to send messages to leaders to which there are often no answers. Or the answers are slanted to make no sense at all. I do think it may be best to let it be. You have done a great job trying and you are giving your best advice. The industry isn't for everyone either.

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Midori

I think you should step away from the situation and keep your head down for awhile.

You cannot help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I feel it would only get you into more strife.

Cheers, Midori

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