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Thankfulforhelp22 profile image

I am a senior citizen. Feels funny to write that. Sometimes I will see an older person and hold a door for them or do some courtesy or sign of respect to their age. Then it hits me, they might be your age or a few years younger. Also, sometimes when referring to someone , I’ll say he or she is old or up in years etc when the same could be said about me. I can see age in the mirror but so far my health is very good.

I just feel a disconnect between my age and how I perceive my age. It feels like I went to sleep at age 35-40 and when I woke up I was in my 60’s. I think I’m past the mid life crisis stage thankfully. I pretty much look my age, I think and this disconnect does not make me sad. It’s just a weird feeling.

Anyone else have this feeling?

It also arises when I see a celebrity or former athletes age quoted and see that they are younger even though I assumed they were older.

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Agora1 profile image
Agora1

Hi TFH22, I try to look at others as a replica of myself. We're human and all deserve

that form of respect no matter what age. I do the same thing as you, I may hold the

door open for someone or even take someone's cart back from the shopping center.

I love to see the smile on people's faces when we extend a kindness.

Someday, let's hope someone returns the favor when we may need it. :) xx

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Thankfulforhelp22 in reply toAgora1

Greetings Agora1.

I guess these old timers are my people now and I am theirs 🤣🤣🤣. Fine by me. Much love to all old codgers ❤️

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fauxartist in reply toAgora1

me too....

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54

Yes I feel the same. When I go out I still expect to be 25 and slim. I get a shock when I see this elderly fat person in shop windows. I see her in mirrors too.

I don't know who she is but wish she would go away! Lol

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fauxartist in reply tohypercat54

I love it when I have my young and skinny dreams....

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Ohmy1

hi, I know the feeling . It hits me hardest when I go to a concert and expect to see a 20 something crowd but all I see is old people. Then I realize they are my age or younger. Be glad you are healthy and have a young spirit.

bonkers65 profile image
bonkers65

I'm 70 and people hold doors for me etc. and I like it. I also hold doors for others too. It seems like just yesterday when I was 30, haha

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Weatherwoman in reply tobonkers65

You are just a "babe" compared to me. I turned 79 this Month! I don't know how I got this age SO darn fast. When I look in the mirror, I wonder who IS That with all those wrinkles (esp. around the mouth & face falling)! I Hate the wrinkles, but no creams (and, I've tried dozens) of them help. I won't do any invasive treatments, nope! I hold doors for people most likely near my age --just a matter of kindness, and it's okay when they hold doors for me. They say that age is just a no., but, they are wrong. I have losts of health issues, and that bothers me A lot! Lost too many people in my life & that Hurts the most. My Mom lived to 103, and was in good shape up till her last two years. She didn't worry about her age, just lived her life. My Father died at 71, too young! Yeah, it seems like yesterday, I was in my 30's, as well!

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blueslite in reply toWeatherwoman

Nice to see you Weatherwoman! :) I agree absolutely with everything you said. I can't say much - my computer shuts itself off randomly, anytime it feels like it, so I try to keep my comments short. It's distressing when it shuts down in the middle of my typing. I hope you're doing good. :)

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Weatherwoman in reply toblueslite

My computer acts up, too, at times. I am Not fond of this digital age; but, I can't do much about it as everyone seems to want everything on the computer. Glad that I grew up w/o computers, cell phones, etc. And, I didn't have them at work, either. Know that there are some good things as now we can be in touch on HU no matter where we live.

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bonkers65 in reply toWeatherwoman

Keep on keeping on :)

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Weatherwoman in reply tobonkers65

Yes, that's about it --"keep on keeping on!"

Oh yes, that's a very familiar feeling. I think every old woman you see is still seventeen under all the wrinkles, still dancing barefoot in the moonlight.

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Midori in reply toNothing_but_books

Absolutely! I can identify with that, I look in the bathroom mirror and see my grandmother. Scary!

Cheers, Midori

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mydogs

Oh Yes everything written above applies to me I went to bed at fifty looking forty I woke up at seventy looking eighty and like a creaking gate. Where did that time go and my thick dark hair.

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Weatherwoman in reply tomydogs

I am laughing, but not -- The last three years with all the stress I've had, look like I've aged 50 years. Even three years ago, I didn't have SO many lines, wrinkles like I do now! I have very thin brown/grey hair --wanna trade!

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Midori

Hi There,

Yes, I completely understand that. I'm 75, and I was brought up to be kind and helpful to my elders,

Even although I stagger round on a rollator, It still instinctively try to help anyone who needs it, but at my age it's hard to find someone older than myself! So, I often entertain kids in the supermarket who are giving their parents a hard time, by pulling faces at them to make them giggle and forget their grumps!

It doesn't help a lot that I became a nurse, and its' frustrating to often be on the receiving end of the care.

Cheers, Midori

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Wappawappa

I meet someone that I haven't seen for a while and think how they have aged. They are probably thinking the same thing about me.

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Thankfulforhelp22 in reply toWappawappa

So very true 😀

maggiegro profile image
maggiegro

Hi. I know exactly how you feel.

designguy profile image
designguy

I know it is sobering to realize how fast time flies and I have to remind myself that it happens to all of us and try to enjoy it with compassion and grace., it's made me more aware of living and enjoying the moment and being grateful for it.

I had cataract surgery earlier this year and wasn't prepared for my reflection in the mirror and wondered who that old person was staring back at me - LOL!

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Thankfulforhelp22 in reply todesignguy

Like you I’ve become very aware of living in the moment 👍🏾. It makes life better.

designguy profile image
designguy in reply toThankfulforhelp22

Yes it does and i've started practicing gratitude which I had kind of dismissed before and now realize how good it feels.

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fauxartist in reply todesignguy

Me too.... I have lots to be grateful for.... I gave away almost everything to be where I am now, and it was all worth it, no regrets...I have everything I need.

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designguy in reply tofauxartist

that is a good place to be sounds like it was worth the effort.

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designguy in reply toThankfulforhelp22

It definitely does.

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fauxartist in reply todesignguy

great comment.... and glad you got your site back.... I'm losing mine due to a genetic hand me down, and was told I have the beginning of cataract's. But hope for the best as it's hard to paint when I can't see what I'm painting...

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designguy in reply tofauxartist

I can relate, I have glaucoma and have lost some vision in my left eye, fortunately my right eye is good and able to compensate.

Maybe now is the time for your painting to become more abstract expressionist - lol.

Same here. I’ve been trying not to let my challenges and struggles obscure my many blessings. I’ve learned some very valuable things in the last 5 to 6 years, that have made my life better. Who knew🤣🤣🤣?

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KrierandRosie

I know it feels weird to be old. It is hard to accept. But all the physical changes make it real. Cataracts, arthritis, twisted toes, crumbling teeth and bones makes it genuine. People here do not socialize in person. I wish we could do that, instead of typing here. This does not help the loneliness.

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Weatherwoman in reply toKrierandRosie

Me, too, I wish that we could socialize in person as I feel we all have a lot in common, and would be kind & undestanding to one another. Certainly, would help with loneliness. Ah, but we will have to make due with "talking" online!

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fauxartist

I didn't know what age discrimination was until I applied for a job in my mid-fifties. It was a rude awakening....

There was a story this gal told me years ago about a young woman who bought this purple hat...she loved it....it was a bit gaudy, so she didn't want to wear it in public, so she put it away in her closet in it's box . A decade went by and she went back in the closet and took the box out, but still didn't wear it, she didn't want to stand out and was afraid of negative comments. Another decade went by and she took the hat out of the box, and tried it on again and this time hung it on the side of her standing mirror so she could admire it, but still didn't wear it out... Another decade goes by, life happened, changes happened, and she no longer cared what anyone would say about her purple hat, she was older and wore her purple hat everywhere because she could.

Now I'll be 70 this year, I don't have a purple hat, but I no longer care what people think, I earned this body, this gray hair, and my aches and pains....

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Marysblue in reply tofauxartist

There are purple hat Societies in most cities in the US at least they were popular back 10 to 20 years ago it was older women that all wore purple hats and would socialize.

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fauxartist in reply toMarysblue

How fun... I never knew about that...thanks...it made me smile...

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Marysblue in reply tofauxartist

I have to correct myself I looked it up and it's red hat societies but they all wear purple clothes. It's based around that thing you read I think.

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Arymretep in reply toMarysblue

Yes it’s red hats and purple clothes👍

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Marysblue profile image
Marysblue

I have a huge disconnect..

designguy profile image
designguy

Absolutely I do, everybody else has aged but me-lol!

maggiegro profile image
maggiegro

I feel exactly the same.

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