I've seen you somewhere, where are you from, Do I know you, tell me more about yourself, so on I really hate it when someone asks me such questions. I don't wanna share anything to anyone. I don't want them to know about me. It's my biggest anxiety . When someone asks me such things I sweat out, my heartbeat gets faster, I can't sense anything, I feel like darkness in front of my eyes. I don't know why are they all are interested in all such personal questions, why noone asks how the other person is doing, Is he/she ok??At my work place as a receptionist I've to deal with many customers, I don't know why half of them are interested in very personal questions, what they gonna do by knowing about me, I really don't like this. I even can't say them anything as they're customers. I feel so tired all day overthinking all this.
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Is it possible they're just awkward at conversation? I know I am. Having said that, I'm a very private person and I get how having to field those sorts of questions all day could wear on you. Maybe have a little fun with them and just make up answers! Nothing too crazy though, don't want to see you get in trouble. All kidding aside, I hope you have things in place so you can properly decompress after work. Hope you sort this out, sending you peace until you do.
I literally don't know how to respond all this, I just get blank. Whole night I overthink what will I do next day at work. I just get so anxious. It's totally fine if they talk about work related things I can manage it but personal questions are really my Anxiety trigger. I wish I could get over this.
I'd just keep it simple...divert and deflect, stay on point as to what their purpose is at the reception desk, and then excuse yourself once you have addressed the business aspect, and say you have other stuff you have to get to and just switch off. It is work and as a receptionist your expected to be helpful and welcoming, but that's it, but these days many people seem to not have the filters of professional decorum and they just do and say what ever they want to, to anyone. Your business isn't part of your job and none of their business. Just switch off from them in a public situation outside of work as well, and simply say your not comfortable with the conversation about your personal stuff and change the subject, or exit the encounter with saying you have another appointment you have etc. Your not obligated to anyone to talk about your personal life or information your not comfortable with.
Hey fauxartist,Yes nowadays people are not professional, they say whatever they like, whether the another person is comfortable or not.
I always try my best to avoid them but sometimes it's really get so hard, I fumble and get blank. I literally don't know how to respond them.
The more I ignore them , more they irritate me, I feel so awkward.
I know all people are not same but alot of them are so weird, I can't explain, how awkward and uncomfortable I feel everyday at work. I feel like I can't make it anymore, I always think of quitting my job.
Great suggestions 😊. The only questions I have a hard time with it's about having kids. Sometimes I tell people I just can't have them and change the subject quickly. Then they say oh are you sad about it. So I say I'm grateful for the things in my life and just something that I've made peace with and I walk away if I can. I had health problems including women's problems. And with medication I had for Crohn's for many years is risky to have kids. So with the surgery I just decided to have ligation. .
I can see that would be a very hard subject and definitely a trigger, and anyone who wouldn't respect you not wanting to talk about something so personal is a jerk. It's painful for you and insensitive for someone to pursue that line of questioning.
I'm sorry for the pain this has caused you, I know it's now fair, and it's cruel really. I commend you for being able to make your peace with it, it's not in any way an easy thing to do.
More often than not it's conversation and they don't realize my history and understand that. However when I say I don't want to talk about it anymore they should understand
Your absolutely right, and they should respect that...if not...set them straight if you feel it's worth it, otherwise change the subject or find a way to get away from them. No one has the right to invade your space , meaning,...with what your comfortable with and what isn't comfortable, whether is physical or emotional space.
Exactly
Well said 😁
It's really so bad that people want to talk so personal and ask things that can hurt someone. You dont really think about it and don't stress yourself over this, I can understand how worst it feels, when someone triggers our weakness. I go through this everyday.Sending you love and strength.
sometimes people just ask questions because they’re nervous and feel they need something to say. Maybe write down the questions that bother you the most and practice some impersonal answers. Then you will have an answer for them. It will take the pressure off thinking of something to say.
Yes I always prepare myself for worst outcomes, but this leads me to overthink everything n it's really so overwhelming. N even though I prepare myself, infront of people I fumble and sound dumb.
I do the same thing regarding preparation, I find I can't truly prepare for every outcome but my mind just keeps on going on...
There is NOTHING you can do about whether or not people are going to ask you personal questions or not. Nothing. All you can do is control how you handle it. That's it. It's really that simple.
You have to learn to control how YOU feel. If I were you, I would simply prepare some rote answers to these questions.
How are you? "Well it's been a very busy day but I really like it here." Busy tells them [or should] not to ask too many more questions because you are busy. Secondly, it makes your employer happy because they feel you like them and your fellow co-workers. That you are "fitting in."
Have I seen you somewhere before? "Probably not, I'm a homebody after work. I enjoy spending time by self with my pet or reading or watching TV." This deflects the conversation from the personal to the mundane. Instead of talking about yourself, you're talking about your pet or a book or a TV show. Plus you'll sound boring and uninteresting.
Plus answers prepared ahead of time will take some of the pressure off. Additionally, if there is another person in the room and they hear you answer the same way twice, they might just get the message.
Third deflect from yourself to them. How are you doing? What did you do this weekend? "I spent all weekend cleaning my place. I really like it when my whole house smells fresh and clean."
I used to work as a bartender in a wine bar. Trust me. Every wine was "Herbaceous with an effervescent afterglow and if you have a refined palette you just might catch a hint of cinnamon." Every single bottle. Every single time. Customers loved it especially after hearing it a 3rd or 4th time and I would get comments like, "Yeah there's no way you can remember how all these different wines taste. Can you?" Nope there's no chance. Plus we get new bottles every month; sometimes every week.
Thank you for explaining me all this, this really gonna help me, I prepare myself for all those stuffs but when it's time to speak up I just get damn nervous, and I don't know what to say.I try my best to avoid them by acting like I'm so busy on my work but still there are some who will never respect our privacy and act so clingy.
This is the only thing that scares me the most while going for my job. I feel so tired by the end of the day due to overthinking each and every situation.
I love your answer. Such good advice Agamemnon
People in general trigger me. I have never fit in and my ways of coping have all failed and I am back to the beginning again. Ready to give up on it all....
Nothing I have tried sticks, and I just sick of it!!
I've also tried many things to overcome it, but it's not easy. All people, social events and everything makes me nervous. I also feel like I will never fit in. But let's not lose hope, one day we all will overcome it, just a small step a day and we will.
Sending you strength...
thank you
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