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I dont know how to get past this

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I get so sad because when my anxiety and depression really bothers me, my family acts like I'm stupid and wanting attention when all I want is someone to listen and try to understand why I'm the way I am. Why can't my family care about my feelings? I'm always the one to ask how they are but nobody asks how I feel

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Salma2289

I am so sorry my dear for all that you are going through, i am sorry that you can’t get the support you need from your family. We are all different, and sometimes it’s just all that they can do, sometimes it’s all what they know. Definitely it’s your right but some people love us with the whole of their heart but they don’t know how to love us with their real actions. It seems so hard not to get the support and understanding from close people that supposed to be the most recourse for that, I hope you find the real support that you deserve and I hope you feel fine and peace, we are all here for you and we are in the same journey. Send you all my love

in reply to Salma2289

Thank you🙂

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Salma2289 in reply to

You are always welcome 🤗

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Agora1

Welcome LonesomeSoul to a place where all understand what you arefeeling. I know how much it can hurt in feeling as if friends and family

don't have a clue as to how we are suffering. But it's not because they

don't care but because they have not experienced the feeling.

We look okay so I guess to ask how we feel seems insignificant.

But I will ask you "How are you new friend?" :) xx

in reply to Agora1

I had a rough day at work, but the kind words have helped put a smile on my face, thank you.How are you doing?

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Agora1 in reply to

I'm so glad I could give you a smile.Now I'm sending a hug and a warm wish

to relax tonight after a hard day's work.

You so deserve this "me time" tonight. :) xx

P.S. I am doing just fine. Thank you

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AuntBee

LonesomeSoul, your family does care about your feelings. They just dont know how to help you or support you. They may be afraid to ask how you are because they are afraid of your answer. they are also painfully aware they cant fix you which makes them in turn, feel powerless.

in reply to AuntBee

Thank you for the kind words. Altho My family is the type that believes in ignoring problems until they go away.

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That is called denial. Your family is in denial about your mental health. Im sorry they are unable to help you. Is there anyone in your family willing to get assistance from a professional who can coach them on how best to help you? These things do not come naturally. Also, do you have a counselor/therapist who helps you?

in reply to AuntBee

I dont have a counselor/therapist. I have been thinking of going to the doctor to see if I can get some help. Thank you for the lovely advice

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san_ray70

Please if you can, get help from a doctor, sitting being miserable is no good to anybody. hope you feel better soon.

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cbgrace1980

Thank you for your post. I know it's hard to know what to say sometimes when you think people aren't really listening. We are here to listen. I am sorry you are struggling with anxiety. If you feel the struggle is overwhelming, it might be good to talk to a counselor who will listen to you and give you feedback on what you are requesting. My counselor has helped me so much throughout difficult times. Hang in there!

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Indyra420

I don’t know the answer because I’m going through the same situation. We should have a process where we can just adopt the family that works for us. Society pushes that everyone should just fit in. Not even close to reality. Most have just learned to fake it pretty well. I am on a journey to adopt at two replacement kids. Throwing my birth kids away. Sorry, just being honest. They are heartless and I care too damn much.

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