Hello community, I have been rereading my posts and I noticed that I think I observe mood swings have increased. Because sometimes I'm ok and looking forward and sometimes I'm really sad and down. Week to week. That's how my posts read anyway. Anybody else have this? I just find that interesting
So this week I'm feeling relieved, sad a little but not as much as I had been. I had a falling out with my daughter, she is 20 going to University and lives with my mother. I had to make amends to her yesterday and relay my perspective of the events that occurred when I became severely depressed when she was 12 until she was 14 and then she moved to my mom's. I'm anticipating that her response is not going to be in my favor. So in 10 days she is going to read me her response letter to me and she requested to be with my therapist in person. so the anticipation is building in my mind. Right this moment I am not wound up or upset I'm just kind of like it is what it is. But I'll be crying about it in the morning. I shouldn't do this but I guess I'm forecasting that she is going to reject me completely or set some insane boundaries where I'm not allowed to talk about problems between us.
I can't figure this kid out when she's around me she's very stoic and like there's a wall in between us. Her wall. When she's with her friends or other family members she acts totally different than when she acts with me. She's vague with me, doesn't tell me things, doesn't think to call me and see how I'm doing, she visits with me for half an hour before she looks like she has ants in her pants and she has to go, won't share her feelings when it comes to mother daughter relationship. She's totally radio silent! So I don't know, if what I talk about to her, is hurting her or helping her. I'm not trying to create drama. But I have healing I HAVE to do for myself so that was my intent to make amends and heal myself by offering her an explanation as to what was happening to me and my condition of depression. I didn't raise her and tell her all about my depression I wasn't sure if I should tell her or not so I chose not to talk about it when she was young. I rather avoided the subject so although she probably has seen a lot of symptoms she doesn't recognize it though and I never said anything like Mommy was behaving strangely and acting different then usual and depressed.
I think I'm getting mixed messages from this 20-year-old kid I think she has a hard time expressing herself to me and her grandmother with whom she lives. I think she has a resentment towards authority figures that she lives with. Because she acts the same way to her Grandma where she's at now. Anyway I love my daughter very much I will never give up on her. I told her that tonight. I really do hope she chooses to forgive me and try and reconnect with me that's all I want. I'm praying for that and I'm giving her space so she can do her own thinking in 10 days she'll let me know with her letter and response to my amends letter. Wish me luck! 😅. Any advice any response you might want to offer? I'd love to hear some contributions from this community. Until then take care and be well! ✌️🌈🌻