Therapist rant

[Starla7811]

My mother has had a hard life and has some really toxic tendencies and has kind of physically abused my sister and mentally abused me. She also was a sufferer of physical abuse at the hands of my father. I took her to a therapist for her problems. But the therapist since day one is giving therapy free of cost but is kind of dictating our lives. Even after repeated requests she is not charging the relevant fees. She has kind of started to decide what we should or should not be doing. I myself went to her for a session and she disclosed some things that I told her about my mother in therapy to my mother in her session. I suspect this is unprofessional but since I don't have much experience in therapy. Am I wrong ?

[Artistfriend]

Its definitely wrong unless you have an agreement to be treated as a family or something

[Starla7811 in reply to Artistfriend]

Although it was a family therapy I went for an individual session

[Starla7811 in reply to Starla7811]

And she has been giving unnecessary job offers and kind of dictating what we should be doing about careers or food or other things

[Starla7811 in reply to Starla7811]

We initially agreed for family therapy but I did go for an individual session

[Artistfriend in reply to Starla7811]

I hear you, the main thing is how you feel, if youre not comfortable with her and there is no trust or connection thats something to think about whether shes the right fit

[Starla7811 in reply to Artistfriend]

Okay then I guess I need to change the therapist. Thank you for the advice and reply 😄

[Artistfriend in reply to Starla7811]

Youre welcome

[Starla7811 in reply to Artistfriend]

And neither thing she does is tell us how the less fortunate are succeeding in lesser resources and we should do that too regularly example would people in slums study quietly you should be grateful for what you have

[Starla7811]

Claims to be and she is a lecturer at a reputed college. That is exactly why I had doubts that were we at fault here

[BrainIsFull]

Hi Starla!

Dictating or strongly directing patients to act in certain ways - unless someone is suicidal or homicidal - is not acceptable, ethical treatment in my opinion. It sounds controling and potentially damaging.

I would say that it is a good idea to follow your gut instinct.

There are excellent therapists and there are therapists who either are not skilled, lack boundaries or are outright abusive.

I wish you the best in your search for assistance.