I find if someone knows that I have Bipolar and PTSD, at first they are supportive. I also see over the time, I am discredited. My decisions or my ideas aren't valued. Not by everybody.
This week, my lawyer did this. It was about paperwork. It was about facts. The paperwork said the words I believed from the Government. I was still told I was wrong. I actually checked with the government that my belief from the paperwork was correct. That person discredited me to the point I didn't believe in me anymore.
Anyway, I just wanted to check to see if anyone else has these issues with not being valued or believed.
I really didn't see this coming, and I feel demeaned. Then, I got mad at myself for allowing that person to make me doubt myself. I really didn't like this.
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I experienced that as well. A previous manager suspected I'm claiming more hours than I should, and just felt the need to do the calculation in front of my face no matter how much I explained, only to find out that I was honest the whole time. I was admitted to a pretty good grad school, and once landed on a nice job, and my parents' reaction was to double check even triple check if I got scammed. I used to have friends that constantly challenge and question my opinions, to the point that they sometimes directly contradict their previous opinions just to prove that I'm wrong.
The lesson I learned there is to not expect any validation and credit from these people. Some people are just like that, they beat down on people if you give them the chance. Don't befriend them, don't expect positive feedback from them, they are just unpleasant NPCs in your life. I'd just be cold and keep a distance. Not everyone in my life has to be nice and supportive, and it is up to me to take in the supportive voice and brush off the unpleasant ones.
On the other hand, I've never experienced the discredited feeling because the other party knows that I have mental health issue -- because I am not diagnosed, not even trying to get one. And that is exactly because I fear that people would look down on me if I have issues.
I find that "support" and "respect" usually don't come together. People tend to not respect the persons they are supporting (kids, elders, etc), and they respect more of those who looks strong and does not need to be cared for.
This is not saying that people having mental issues don't deserve respect tho -- dealing with it on a daily basis, surviving and pulling yourself out of it is also tremendous strength. It's just that "normal" people without such experience can't see our pain and effort. They are just clueless about it, and clueless people can be insensitive.
It is amazing how much it hurt me. Not because I am not soft, I am so soft, but because I was alone with this person. It scared me. I felt intimidated. I think that was the whole point.
RoxyKind, I think you meany to say 'disregarded', that your feelings & experiences were not considered or believed. I also have Bipolar 2 & PTSD. I haven't the same kind of experiences as you, it might be that I don't get slighted because I don't talk of it much, at least to people I don't know very well. In support...Navar💛
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