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Has anyone ever given you hopes and dreams, then throws you out like garbage?

Have you ever met someone that makes you believe the love you share is special? They make you believe they are nothing without you, they can’t live without you, if you leave them? They’ve begged you to never leave them. Your life only becomes about them.

You cancel you’re wedding to be with this person because you thought the love was real and you were going to end up with them. You’ve lost all of your friends because they advised you to leave him, he will never leave his family (like he says he will). You stuck around although you never wanted to. You’ve given so many chances because you believed in true love. You e given more chances than you ever should’ve. Have you swallowed your pride and all of your beliefs for true love?

You give them everything in the world, you change your life, bend over backwards, believed all their lies..turns out, you really meant nothing to them and they dump you, like you were garbage. Now you can’t live with yourself because you feel like the biggest fool that ever existed. This person knows you suffer from depression and anxiety. Instead of helping you they’re online having fun and not caring about you or thinking of you. Instead they are adding fuel to the fire. All you want is to be happy and smile but they literally don’t care about you or your feelings, when all you cared about were theirs and making them happy.

I just want to know I’m not alone.. I don’t know what else to do. I can’t live with myself.

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After almost 30 yrs of marriage, this is what my husband did..he just threw me away..You are definitely not alone..I know how hurt you are and I’m so sorry. I’m dealing with this pain every day..sending supportive hugs your way.

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I’m so sorry you had to go through that. This is one of the hardest things I have been through my entire life, I feel like I am running out of options for help. I have tried everything to get the thoughts out of my head. I am only 33 years old. So I can imagine 30 years of marriage and how heartbreaking that must be. Thank you for your reply I appreciate it so much.

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Aww sweetheart this pain is unbearable no matter what age. I know what you mean about the options..I’m actually visiting my son..been here for over 2 weeks..since then my husband has pretty much cut off all contact with me and been so cruel..unless I ask him a question , then it’s usually a yes or no answer..I’m at a loss, don’t know what to do with my life now..I dread going back to my house, with no one there for support or to help me..I just want to feel safe again..I’m truly so sorry you’re hurting too💕

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You’re right, the pain is unbearable no matter what age. I feel very vulnerable, I let this person into my life to destroy it all and not care about me. I am going through that same problem with him. He is being so cruel. I told him my feelings and I wanted to harm myself because I want the pain to stop. I just want all of the thoughts to stop. That’s all I want. He said he was going to call the police and save my messages in case I hurt myself, he said I was making threats. I never threatened him.

I was going to take myself to the ER because I didn’t know how to handle myself anymore. but I don’t want my family knowing what’s wrong with me and worrying. They mean the world to me. So I stayed home and went online to find help. I’m running out of options.

I’m glad you have support with your son. I wish I can go away and have support and forget about all of this. I also want to feel safe. I truly understand you and I’m truly sorry you are going through this.

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Aww, hon please don’t hurt yourself, I truly do understand you want the thoughts and pain to stop..I do too..a few days after my husband told me he wanted a divorce and didn’t love me anymore I had the worst panic attack I’ve ever had and went to the hospital, they put me on suicide watch(which is guess is standard practice depending on what you say) I was so scared and distraught..it’s all kind of a blur now but I truly believe I wouldn’t take my own life..even for someone I’ve devoted almost my entire adult life too..I, We are worth far more than what someone, anyone thinks of us. WE ARE IMPORTANT & VALUABLE HUMAN BEINGS❤️Try and swirl that in your mind to help those nagging horrible thoughts.

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I’m so sorry, I can imagine the feeling. I know it very well. I used to think I wouldn’t take my own life but now It feels different. It’s not something I want. All I want is to be happy. I have a family that loves me. I can’t imagine ever hurting them this way.

I do feel I have a place on this earth and I always felt my purpose was to help others in anyway I can. But when I’m in need I can’t seem to get it back. Which is how I ended up here today. Looking for hope..

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Thank you sweetheart! I know exactly how you feel. This is a good, caring site. So glad you found it😊I hope things get much better and we both are able to somehow be happy again..Many hugs to you💕

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I’m glad I found this site. I am able to speak to people as great as you that understand my issues without judgement and are able to listen to my problems. I hope you get better and you do find happiness. I believe good kind hearted people will find happiness after the storm settles, such as you. If you ever need to talk I’m a click away. Sending you big hugs and kisses. 💖

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Thank you darlin, you are a sweet, caring soul..and thank you for being there to talk to..As I am here for you as well..Big hugs and kisses right back sweetheart❤️

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❤️

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Thank you for your kind words

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This just happened to me, it sounds identical to my story. And it has made my depression and anxiety so so bad lately and it's been over 1 month 1/2 since he did this to me and it still hurts. It's just in my head , going over over everything he said, the lies all that he did to me..the pain inside... it's driving me crazy. 😔 I can't even sleep anymore

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Im so sorry I truly understand Im still going through it. He walks in and out when he wants and I allow it. I’ve realized I was mentally abused. I have been in a dark place for a few days now. I understand you, and I wish the best for you and I hope it gets better. We are both in this together. It’s not going to get better after a month and 1/2.. you have to keep fighting. I will be fight too.

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Thank you so much, for the good advice... best wishes to you too. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. 😇💕

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Thank you ❤️💕

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