Out of touch with reality...

[sadandloner1]

When im sober I realize how much I don't fit in with my friends and everybody that I surround myself with. I never know how to communicate with them when I'm sober. But when I'm drunk, I feel alive, and present.

[Agora1]

Hi sadandloner1, the reason for feeling this empowerment is what the alcohol does to

your brain. It doesn't take much for the brain to react to alcohol depending on your size

and the amount you drink and the time you drink it in.

As the alcohol goes through your body, you become more dehydrated and that is why

it's suggested that you drink water between your alcoholic beverages.

Being able to socialize and feeling confident is due to the "feel good" hormones known

as Dopamine and Serotonin. But this reality is short lived before you come crashing down.

It is a healthier option to feel more present and alive by working on yourself and your

self esteem issues with a therapist. Reaching for a drink in moderation can be okay but

reaching for it as an answer is not. xx

[sadandloner1 in reply to Agora1]

Now I understand. I don't have a therapist though

[Agora1 in reply to sadandloner1]

sadandloner, I'm sorry you don't have a therapist.

We have no formal training in therapy and can only support you.

I do feel that all you've been through needs to be addressed by a professional.

You're so young to have experienced so much pain.

Is there anyone you can turn to in order to advise you in getting help?

Wishing you safety xx

[sadandloner1 in reply to Agora1]

Not really, my family is very non understanding. They wouldn't get it at all. The thought of talking about my thoughts seems very painful. I don't think my thoughts would make any sense

[Agora1 in reply to sadandloner1]

I'm sorry dear. I wish I could help you. xx

[sadandloner1 in reply to Agora1]

I'm okay

[casablancalover14]

Yes, drugs and alcohol can make us feel like a different person. But when you get sober, you realize that the problems are still there. I wish I had the solution for you. Are there any groups close to you that deal with trauma and anxiety?

[sadandloner1 in reply to casablancalover14]

I don't know, to be honest.

[casablancalover14 in reply to sadandloner1]

What area do you live in?

[fauxartist]

Many decades ago now, when I first got sober .... I, too, noticed I didn't fit in with my old drinking buddies....that's because I wasn't drinking. So...I had to find different buddies to hang out with....sober ones. I realized there really wasn't much of a friendship to find at the bottom of a bottle...just emptiness...and so too were those old friends...just empty vessels really.

[sadandloner1 in reply to fauxartist]

Thank youL