The trauma of being poor

I've had people ask me how much money I make (a really personal question, to me), then say "that ain't nothing" when I tell them how much.

I've had them tell me that I "need to buy a new car" in reference to my really old car or times when I've not had a car.

I've had them say "you need to get a new job" when I explain that my insurance through my employer won't cover a procedure.

I just want to scream "don't you think I've thought of that!"

Their words make me extremely anxious about problems that I'm already self-conscious about. Mind you, these people are my friends and family, so of course, I don't want to date out of fear of being looked down upon by strangers.

Poverty means being worried about bills 24/7. People's insensitive comments and looks really don't help.

Has anyone else ever dealt with money trauma? How did you handle it?

[Xene]

When they ask that I’d say “None of your business!” Be it friends or family, unless you really want to tell them. I’d word it slightly stronger than that but your choice.

[BerryPebble in reply to Xene]

I would say that other people should keep their comments to themselves.

It’s nobodies business so why don’t you turn it around on them!

By the way, in my experience people like to try to put you down because they get pleasure from it. More than likely they are miserable unfulfilled people themselves.

[Xene in reply to BerryPebble]

I think your reply was meant for HelloFolks but no probs.

[BerryPebble in reply to Xene]

haha yes it was. Sorry about that. Must be my ADHD and the cold weather

[Hidden in reply to Xene]

Thanks, I agree. I've got to be more firm in telling people to mind their business.