For me right now it’s thinking of the hope that I may go to God, angels, and a heaven eventually and be surrounded by love. ❤️
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What do you do or think of that makes you feel safe when you have fear?
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i love the question
thats been on my mind frequently the last week as i deal with this serious shingles diagnosis
what has helped me is that same hope--- knowing my savior holds me fast and surrounding myself in His love
Are you getting treatment for the shingles? I’m so sorry you are going through that.
hi yes
thankyou
i feellike iv been on deaths door
its crazy the the thoughts
I can’t imagine… what it’s like for you. Isn’t it very painful 😣 blessings to you ❤️
i think of my mom and my faith and a warm blanket ❤️
nice Hiba! ❤️
thank you i think without these i would not be who i am today ❤️🙏
I’m glad you are you
thanks ❤️🫂
(((((((((((((beautiful Hiba)))))))))))
Thank you SO much for this post! I've been working on securing a safe place to go in mind. I have a lot of safe places, but the one that is a constant right now is looking forward to the ice rink opening this weekend so I can get back on my skates!
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wow how cool
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a beautiful calm safe place I have is of a dirt path with sun shinning through trees and there is a waterfall up the path and I am bending down hugging my kids.
I like repeating one word in my head, and it works...."Peace...Peace... Peace......".
I also love what John Wayne used to say:
"Fear is being scared to death, and saddling up anyway."🐴
I love that- repeating “peace”
I think it is not fear but bravery or courage or being a warrior is “being scared to death but saddling up anyway.”
I know that when there is fear there is no faith. Everytime I even think of being afraid, I immediately turn it over to God. A few times of turning it over to Father Jehovah, my fear dissipates.
I like your answer
((((((((((Trainchaser)))))))))) thank you
I love this … yes let’s wait and see what happens
The most recent fear I had to deal with was the fear of someone physically harming me. I was panicking and I knew I had to determine if it was a valid fear or not. But at the moment it didn’t matter. The feeling was overwhelming. It wasn’t a valid fear because the person didn’t know where I lived. I had to keep repeating that to myself so my brain could calm down. And I had to divert my thoughts. It took a few days, but the panic eventually subsided. What also big time helped was support from friends during the whole situation. 🍎❤️
Wherever you go when the time comes, Starrlight, it will be a palace made of gold on the beach or wherever you’d like to be, surrounded with people you love and who love you. But that time is not here…..
((((((((((((((((((((((big fat beautiful hug)))))))))))))))))))))) 💐 💐 💐
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Btw I know that overwhelming feeling and a lot of the time I have no idea what I’m fearing, maybe the unknown in general…Are you a ways away from that fear now? I hope u r well
I think the cause of unexplained fear is an individual experience. Mine was a possible fear, but not valid. It was an over reaction defense mechanism. We all have a built in innate defense mechanism. Ready to go at a moments notice. But I do experience, like you, unexplained fear. Lots of maybes there. Yes, I’m a ways away from that fear now. 🙏
that I am safe now , those things that happened in the past, I can not let them haunt me the rest of my life .
I can identify as often I am swept into the troubles that the future MIGHT bring. Yes then they follow me around and mess up the present.
yes they do , I am paranoid about those bad things happening again but I just try to remind myself they won’t and to breath .
yes usually things turn out better than our fears tell us they will
yes , just letting go of the past is sometimes hard .
true
all we can do is our best and it’s enough
yep that is very true
not that the past won’t pop up but we can try to trust in the process of healing and hope for inner peace and love to replace fear
When we have come through crisis and fear we breathe a sigh of relief, get on with our lives and think all will be well, then suddenly those fears come back to haunt us, and just as suddenly we are taken back to first time when we knew those fears - (a bit like a woman giving birth for the first time, the fear of the unknown, but immediately the baby is born, we forget the physical pain, and usually find it hard to articulate - that is until the next time when the memories flood back!) We don't know how we will cope, some of us ask, 'Why is this happening to me again?, or why me ? Suddenly we allow our thoughts to take over our minds. Those thoughts happen because we are about to be asked - by a far greater power - to stand beside, walk with, support someone, going through this for the very first time. We are reminded of how we survived in order to help others survive. Before doing anything else be like Josana13 and hand it over to God. He will be with you. Become positive and change questions ask instead, Why not me? - May sound silly, but it puts you through the love of God, back in control. Learn to stand in the Cross of Christ, He has won the victory over all things bad and evil in the world, it is the demons of the underworld who haven't accepted Him, and they will be mightily surprised when He comes to claim his place. A lot of people here have spoken of peace, well - May the peace of God that passes all understanding keep your hearts and minds in the knowledge and love of God, and of His Son Jesus Christ, and the blessing of God Almighty, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit rest upon us and all our endeavours this day and for ever more. Amen
Checking in… how are you doing?
My cat.
beautiful. ❤️ What is your cat’s name?
Oh, she goes by many names...but she came to me as Chaos.
love it 😻
i love that 😄
😺
i want a cat now 😂😂
Yes, ma'am! 😸😹 A tall order, but here's the best I can do for you, Hiba...
"She loves to make biscuits" (knead knead knead) 😊
Aww so sweet. I want to hold her and cuddle her.
agian
me too, again… my last cat’s name is Favorite but we called him Cat
Is Chaos our Frankie?
No, no...though Frankie is certainly sometimes the embodiment of chaos (he is a handful after all 😸). Did I tell you? He wants to do a duet...with me...I told him, "Not until I get some new teeth!"😸
I just found this! HU's messing with me again! This place is getting so glitchy it's driving me crazy.
I'm glad Frankie's on my side. We wanna hear Frankie! If he talks you into joining in, so much the better.
I think I told you before, I don't hear a slur. You read beautifully. Matter of fact, that might be a nice way to wind down tonight.
So you have more than one cat? Inquiring minds want to know. Do I have to call in Macavity?
Actually, Frankie proposed a video duet! And I just had to draw the line there...🙀
Thank you for the vote of confidence, though. I do have some poetry audio plans on the horizon, so watch this space (well, not this specific space, but the HU space in general).
I think I got the mystery all sussed out in my last comment from your thread of three days ago (I just checked the thread again...and wouldn't ya know it?...Macavity’s not there!)
Oh my! We can't have that.
Now... don't get embarrassed on me. I miss you when you're not here.
yeah most of us have ways of covering up our sad feelings or loneliness but on here we can be free …
I think many of us understand how it is to be stuck in sadness or anxiety for long periods and some will stand by you and listen and not be tired of you. I’m here for you. Getting and giving support is what this place is for.
Great! I’m so glad that helps you you’re amazing!
When I feel afraid, I think of my parents who are long gone now, but I think of the wonderful start in life they gave me and the things they instilled in me to live a good life.
beautiful I agree every child should have that.
Anymore I just sit with the fear and get in touch with my inner knowing/faith and trust that I can handle whatever comes up for me or comes my way and I will be ok. I may not like it and it may be painful but my inner knowing knows I will be ok and that I can make it easier for myself by just surrendering to whatever comes up. It's also a way to ground me in the present which is usually safe.
You are a very strong person!
Thank you, what a nice compliment. It's taken years and a lot of pain and persistence and stubbornness - and i'm still learning.
thanks for this Designguy I guess I will work on believing in myself. How do you surrender? Is there any trick to it becsuse I don’t think I surrender very well.
I've definitely had to learn it the hard way by realizing that the more I struggle with any strong emotions the more they persist and can even seem to get bigger and that it feels a lot better and easier to just surrender to them and let them happen. The other thing is accepting that there really is nothing I can control except how I react to things in the moment. I just got over having covid for the first time and was able to practice surrendering during that time. I had moments of extreme fear and having to have a good rational talk with myself but surrendering to it and letting my body do its healing helped me get through it easier and could have even aided the healing. It's definitely easier to do this when i'm feeling good so in a way I was grateful to get covid to practice. Best to you.
awesome. Best to you too
I try to do a meditation or breathing exercises on Headspace; also I look up friends’ messages on WhatsApp and imagine their voices reading them as if they were speaking to me in real life, that sometimes helps to ground me.
My light and salvation is also Jesus and God the Father Almighty. I pray a lot, go to Church and also know that someday I will have heavenly rest with all my dearly departed.
You keep that vision firmly in your sights Starlight. Put your trust in the God of grace, the Son of hope, and the Spirit of love. You won't - no - can't go wrong
How nice you think..I love that you put your hopes in God.He wil help us, He knows we are suffering.
Just believe and you will be healed.
I exercise. I pray. I listen to my song for fear. For me it the theme from "The Mission" by Ennio Morricone. I clean. I stay busy. And if I need to.. I cry. I let it out.
I close my eyes and think of being in my grandparents kitchen. They had a heat register in the floor that I used to stand on when I was cold. I also think of sitting at the table or on my grandfather's lap looking out the window. I was seven when my grandmother died but until my grandfather passed away that house, especially the kitchen was always my safe place.
What a sweet memory! Reading it took me back to my Grandma's house, the warm smell of pine when I walked in the door. Sitting on the floor, listening to opera and classical music. I remember the knickknacks, I loved the carved Scottish terrier. And Sundays, the whole family gathered watching Bonanza while Grandpa slept in his armchair.
I also thought of my grandparents house… and their potato cellar ( my grandpa was a farmer) and their roses, ponds, fat toad that sat below the light right before you walk in the house.
The original Toady! Those memories are so strong.
It only took me a second, and I was a time traveller. Ah, the days that are no more...
Yes the original Toady haaaa! I know … the good ol days are distant memories …
You're not old enough yet to know. They won't always be so distant. The memories fade like old snapshots into a hazy blur, and swim past your memory, years blending one into another, you can almost touch and hold them... 💜 🦜
nice description 😊
Thank you Ma'am. 😄
The memories may fade but they are in our hearts. There when we need to smile, to feel loved or be comforted. Perhaps they are tucked away in our souls so we always have them.
From Agora's recent post:
"Some people before dying experience seeing a loved one or even a pet that passed away. These sights can make the patient more comfortable on their journey. Patients have relayed a form of peace that comes over them during these events..."
"What I did see was that a seemingly form of peace comes over the person during these moments."
I’ve had dreams where I saw my grandpa and my brother and it was like they were coming to me to tell me they were ok
That's so special. I love the connection is still there for you. You are loved.
I think maybe you'll understand: My Dad, who had died a few years previous, visited me when my life was in immediate danger. He put his hand on my shoulder, and I was safe.
woah that is so awesome
Sometimes I close my eyes, and I can feel his hand there.
wow I am so happy for you that’s really nice
My grandmother had one rose bush. It never was huge but it managed to flower every year. We would go outside and she would cut flowers for me to take home. As I said I was seven when she passed away. But the rosebush hung on. I had a special dance in junior high. My grandfather brought me a rose before the dance. I wore it in my hair.
beautiful
Hi Axxes, don't suppress your feelings. let them out. i've held mine in for years and they creep out at the most inopportune times and it makes you look like a crazy person. i'm learning about my emotions now and how to deal with them so i don't explode. if you need to cry, do it! i'm letting out my pain and suffering like poisoned blood. i used to numb myself but they don't go away. Be well!
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