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What do you do when you feel that no one wants you?

What do you do when you feel not wanted?

What do you do to cope the feeling of being send away? Of being ostracized?

How do you survive with the thought that no one loves you, no one did and no one will?

What do you do when you meet someone that gives you this sensation of wanting to connect forever.. but you to them is merely nothing?

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I just turn on the tv and wait for those feelings to leave. I basically distract myself. Sometimes tv. Sometimes with a hobby.

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And do you really believe that no one wants you?

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Yes. I have come to accept it. Even embrace it. Not everyone is lucky to have family and friends.

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I can’t agree, can’t accept

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I wouldn’t expect you too. I was only sharing how I cope with those feelings. I hope you conquer them.

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Oh Here, I am so so so sorry for you that you feel this way. I can understand your feelings because they haunt me no different. However I can make myself believe that I’m right, I cannot accept the same about you. I think that we don’t see how much we are loved. Each day. And I believe that there is a lot of people that want to connect with us, we just don’t give them chance. It’s a very stereotypical talk, but the same time I feel, that we do get the chance. I’m constantly battling this awful thoughts that there is no one.

Is it that you gave up?

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No I didn’t give up. You get to a certain age where those parts of life change and are no longer as important. It’s just priorities.

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<3

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Thank you very much for sharing, its very important to me to know that every point of view can be valid and valuable. thank you!

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I can relate to each of your writings. Exhaustion from little sleep leaves me with a huge lack of tolerance for everyone & everything. Each day is getting more & more difficult, as I suck it in more. Family......Friends......WHAT are those?? It seems I'm almost always the one doing the reaching out, ASKING them how THEY are, etc. Good for you, Good job!!! I honestly wish I could "Embrace it, & Accept it", but I think my "PAIN" BOX, has had so much shoved into it, and now is ALL FILLED UP, and the Lid Has Come OFF! So much has been forced in there, it's been splitting at the seams for a long time! I, too, feel like almost everyone is going against me. I'm very friendly, smile at people, and talk with them.......THEN as I'm walking away, I beat myself up for doing that! Even in a text from one person, she just goes on & on about herself. She knows how I'm feeling, what I'm dealing with (although she doesn't really understand). She knows I'm home alone, feeling too poorly to do much else, and that I have no family to speak of. Yet, she texts me telling me WHAT FUN she is having doing this & that, etc., even sending me photos. I guess she means well, and perhaps she's trying to take my mind off of my inner/outer pain. BUT, it has the opposite affect.....I have Abandonment Issues, Trust Issues, Codependency Issues. Now my Anxiety & Frustration has become ANGER that I've turned INWARD. I don't hurt others; I just hurt myself. Thank you for letting me share all that. Please help me here........I'm feeling so very desperate.

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I have massive health problems, no friends or family living close, and no one will listen if I need to talk. I talk to my dog or doctors. After getting my most recent health diagnosis I am finding that this forum is a life saver.

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Idramjet, know that "we care" :) xx

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I have reached a point in my life where I am just going with the flow now. I don’t actively look for friends or engage my family. I found great empowerment in letting go of those areas of my life. It’s just the way life is for some people. They wind up alone.

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Papillon! From what I see here - you are fed up, pissed and exhausted!

I think there is an important change growing in you. Change of liberating yourself from other people’s wishes and needs. Break free! Get exactly to the place where you can feel safe and open. Get to the place wheee you can express your own feelings, needs, where you can say what you think with no fear of being judged or “ostracized”.

I actually believe that if we can stand people with their flaws, with their strange behaviors, with their controversial opinions and so many of insecurities, they may as well cope with ours. I believe that we can be liked. We can be part of community. We can surely have friends and family. And we are definitely worth of love!

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🕊🌞🌷🍀🙂the forum loves you x

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I agree with Alan. I don't have a ton of friends but I feel like everyone here is a friend in my life. Someone's always here to talk to or share with. That's what I believe.

I hope you find a way to conquer those thoughts like here I am said.

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I am of those that find this forum a life saver indeed! I cannot express how much it has already changed in me. I wish the world outside would be also so caring.

I am sorry for sounding cheap but I love people in here. With great and true love. They are my friends and my family. Anytime i feel sad, I can come here and share everything that is just boiling inside me. I can also help others. I can care. I can participate.

Thank you!

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Thank you! I wish the world outside would be caring as well. So much hate it makes me sad. Feel the same way lots of great helpful wonderful people here.

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You sound like you have a lot to give to others blossom!

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I've felt like this so many times throughout my life. It's apart of what goes through my mind when I have a meltdown, but I know that my thoughts are wrong. That isn't reality. There are people that love me. It's a really dark place to be in.

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❤️

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It’s the darkest place for me actually!

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Hiya Orange blossom, i hope your ok today, Im coping and struggling all at the same time, Meditation is helping me, just a wie bit, however I still have very low days , but I know somewhere in the future things will be brilliant again

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i become so afraid of people that i dont even feel comfortable joining this forum because im not wanted

i isolate myself more and more until I have no one because i know im not wanted

i don't even tell the very few people left how much pain I am in because then they will also leave

i am so fearful i can hardly even talk to a therapist because the reality is they could care less its just a job

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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I tend to isolate myself, too. It’s not a good place to be in and so hard to get the motivation to get out.

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i used to love getting out. would do anything to get out

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I feel the same way. That’s the hardest part for me, figuring out The Who, what, why and how’s that got me like this. I have hope that one day we will all get to through this and get back to life again 🤞🏻

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I know how you feel and have felt like that since I have been a teenager. I have dependency issues in romantic relationships and no self-esteem or confidence when I am in one. I am always struggling with "waiting for the other shoe to drop" and for my partner to leave. It is very, very tough dealing with this everyday.

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Never underestimate urself. No one is worthless in this world. Always be positive.

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