Nightmares about home

[Against_the_current]

Nightmares have started again. I always dream i have to go home and i don't want to stay with mom, i dream she's always insane and triggering me, i can't neither stay at dad's and i dream of going to my grandparents village and always saying i'm going back but never being able to bear mom and sis gets mad at me for staying in the countryside and leaving her deal with mom. This is the dream that keeps on repeat.

Reality check helps me i think. I remember i'm at my accomodation. Then i feel bad i have no home with those parents. And i remember sis manages to get along with mom

[Genuineguy]

Its good you do a 'reality check'. Thats a very good practice to get in to when we feel overwhelmed. You're doing really well to do that. My therapist encourages me to do this too when I get overwhelmed by literally writing out all the evidence to support an alternative and positive view of a situation. I find it helps.

[Against_the_current in reply to Genuineguy]

Thanks. Mine makes me do this too. Reminded me to do it. Also really helps to write evidence against the thought.

It's really hard when we have evidence for the bad things. Espessially If i hear mom drank and is sleeping, i get really anxious

[Genuineguy in reply to Against_the_current]

Youre doing great to keep doing your best to try cconsider evidence against unhelpful thoughts. Its true, its isnt easy especially when we have a really strong emotional reaction to something. My therapist encourages me to break down each emotional reaction/thought and challenge it too because despite the difficulties there is often a way out . It can be really difficult and takes strength and practice though. SometimesI forget. I guess we are kind of learning to be our own therapist and look at things in a balanced way when we do this. I am still learning about all this. Like you, I write too. also I pray too about how I feel which I find helps. My therapist said to keep doing this too.

[Against_the_current in reply to Genuineguy]

Well said

[SoporRose]

I’m very proud of you for the growth you’re showing. Well done, AtC!

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Thank you