My sister is upset and we're worried about her

[Against_the_current]

My sister is raging again. She's upset she got a mark that messed her score and won't take schoolarship and is raging around and hating all of us. Mom, dad, me. Idk why she sees me in their team. She's so mad. I told mom to not bother her since she calms but mom got upset sis is upset and yelled at her. Sis started crying because nobody lets her express her emotions and mom was mad because she doesn't like seeing sis in that mood. I understand them both. And i'm trying to help them both. But they see me at the side of the other one. It's too much. Finally mom clamed and tried to help sis but sis pushed her away. I managed to get mom outside on a walk so sis could calm down a bit. Now we came back home and sis is mad we're back so soon. We were out for like 50mins. Sis is mad we're back. It's getting dark outside. But i will go on a walk still because i'm on the verge of panic and it would make it worse.

[propjock]

Are you, mom, and sis ever able to talk about what just happened after everyone has calmed down?

[Against_the_current in reply to propjock]

We're trying to. It's still hard. Sis refuses

[hypercat54]

It's not your job to parent your sister or your mum or to sort anything out. Let them deal with it and stay out of it is my advice. I am sure your mum can deal with your sisters tantrums and I think you could be making it worse.

I am sure you mean it for the best but the answer isn't to intervene as it is between the 2 of them. Maybe wait until your sister is calmer and try and talk to her privately and she might open up to you and be able to express her emotions. This is how you can help her best.

I am not having a go at you or anything and I don't expect this is what you want to hear, but these are my honest thoughts. This is just a lesson we all have to learn about when to get involved and when not to.

[Against_the_current in reply to hypercat54]

Thank u, i needed to hear this

[hypercat54 in reply to Against_the_current]

I am glad this was helpful. It's not easy I know but next time if necessary take yourself off to your room or even out. Leave them to it to sort out between themselves. It will be much easier on your nerves....

[Against_the_current]

They don't want therapy, nor they can handle it, nor there's a good therapist