hi I no longer worry about myself I just try my best to do the right things. But I do now worry a lot about other people even when they are probably fine but I don’t know it’s hard to explain. I guess I feel like it’s my job. With my kids, ok fine. But I worry excessively about like everyone in my life including on here and it’s making me tired. I think at least since I realize it I can try to make changes. Exercise and Meditation helps and staying in the present helps I notice. Anyone else take it upon yourself the burden of trying to control things so that no one gets hurt? I can’t stand other suffering it’s really hard to see. I’d rather be the one to suffer and in this, I actually make myself suffer for the belief I can make a difference. I realize I need self care. So I put some soothing eye patches it feels sooooo gooood. Now to meditate for my mind.
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I can relate. I try to be a caring person but I've learned to set boundaries and stay in my lane, mostly... I still have a violent knee-jerk reaction to bullying (even to others).
I think this says some very good things about you though! Knowing your limits is important too though, but I really appreciate people like you who are empathic and friendly. I think people with a caregiver nature like yourself tend to be more positive and enjoyable to be around. You'll just need to remind yourself not to take on too much 😉
Awesome advice and thank you for your kind words.
Not necessarily. I think I'm empathic as all get-out, and I have "a caregiver nature" too.
BUT. A positive person I ain't. I find it so much easier to look on the dark side. A natural born cynic.
Please notice I began sharing my idea with "I think", as in it's my opinion. I really do try to share from my own personal perspective (and speak from the heart when I do) because I can never know anyone else completely. I can't speak for you, I can only speak for myself, it's all any of us can do.
I'm sorry that you feel like a cynical person, to me that would be an awful weight to carry around. I've seen so many horrible things in this world that I choose to focus more so on the positive- this is a learned thing, not something I was born with... if you're happy as you are, more power to you.
Good for you making time for self-care. You are so good to post threads on here, I always enjoy and appreciate them. Take care and good night x
I appreciate you! Thanks, I’m trying to take care but it’s hard sometimes lol I take care of too much ugh Have a good peaceful relaxing night!
Thanks Starrlight, and I hope you had a good night and didn’t worry too much xI tend to only sleep three or four hours per night - it is a Summer thing with me and will improve in Winter(I hope!). I tend to come downstairs for an hour or so in the middle of the night and read/potter about and have a mug of camomile tea, that usually does the trick xx
Interesting that you sleep less during summertime. I love chamomile tea. I usually get like 8 hours of sleep.
Thank YOU
If we don't take care of ourselves there's nothing left to offer the people in our lives. It's hard. I constantly struggle with boundaries. Try to make sure everyone is taken care of and doing ok. It's too much. I know I do it but have to recognize it more quickly. I think that's why I am so relieved that my husband is working all weekend. I need some time to recharge.
I hear ya! So true. I’m in need of recharging too… working on letting myself, ha!
I decided to just crash. I'm overtired and hopefully will sleep through the night.
I too get exhausted rescuing others. I get annoyed when those same folks don’t rally for me. I have learned that I have to set and hold those boundaries myself. Tough stuff! Rest up!!
From reading your posts, I think it may be part worry, but also part Empathy.
& The latter (IMO) is sometimes a good trait to have. 
Oh yeah that’s a really nice positive outlook on it. Thank you. How are you doing?
Just trying to hang in there, (trying to) help with my parents and their health.
But I'm also happy (as usual) to be here with you guys/gals too.
Nice. I help with my parents as well. Yesterday I cleaned and bandaged up my moms arm … for some reason it was cut up bleeding and the skin was hanging off and I’ll tell ya I got squeamish I don’t usually get that way, but finished the job.
I’m happy you are here too!!!
Take a break from this site sometimes if you need to. It can be overwhelming. Sometimes I purposely stay away for a day or two. You can’t help everyone. I imagine that people who are in helping professions like being psychologists have to pace themselves too.
Yeah that’s true. Thanks Googoodollsfan.
I think noticing the worry isn't good for you is terrific!
Ya, I'm guilty too.
"The burden of trying to control things."
You're amazing, the clarity you've expressed.
Maybe looking at it the way you've described will help me cut it out, at least a bit.
((((((((((((((((((NBP))))))))))))))))))) yes my friend! We can work on it but let’s not get down on ourselves for it if we don’t change it all at once. I think it will take some time to not worry too much but still keep up the caring. It’s a delicate process. Hod are you doing today?
I made some progress with work that's been bothering me.
I'm feeling lousy from lousy sleep for two weeks, so I cut back on new med on my own. I hope Tuesday I'll hear something useful from the doctor's office.
You're right. Things take time. I need to focus on progress.
Oh no lousy sleep is very hard. Hope you do get something useful at the docs. We have a doctor coming to our home on Tuesday to see my mom.
The doctor's office finally called me back today. The asked me a question, and said they'd get back to me. Then they called again and gave me advice that repeated the problem I'd already said I had. So they said they'd see again, and call back. No call back. It's very frustrating not being able to actually talk to the doctor.
Worry is a stress reaction we sometimes get with the overwhelm the need to find purpose to turn situations in to a positive momentum self worth good habits conquering mood replacing those negative emotions with self esteem focusing on positive thoughts being real to how we feel practise mindfulness being in the present finding tranquillity can assist the mind change perspective a gentle walk shared experiences self belief you are worthy with you're exchanges
I’ll definitely focus on the present mindfully and positivity practice. Thanks Moxond for sharing your perspective. How are you doing today?
Having suffered with anxiety for years i've learned how worrying is a way of trying to be in control of which it's not a bad thing until it gets us out of balance and becomes obsessive. The older I get the more I realize and accept that life really is about balance and some days I'm more balanced than others and it's ok. I really like the analogy of being in an airplane in an emergency and putting on the air mask first in order to be able to help others, it makes a lot of sense to me. So many of us were taught that self care is selfish and even shamed and punished for it but we know it's not the truth. We can be a lot more effective with others if we are loving and kind to ourselves and taking care of ourselves first. So good for you for taking care of yourself - enjoy it.
Yes I try to control my life when I actually think so much of it is just thrown at us. Curve balls. Thrown surprises. Ugh.
Sounds like you are able to accept what comes to you.
Balance. Hmmmm I don’t think I have much of it as I do get obsessive. I have bipolar and sometimes I’m out of balance I bet.
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