Any tips for stopping worry

[Starrlight]

I worry about having no money for kids college 12 whole years from now and am afraid I won’t be able to help although they do give help with tuition at a community college... to worries of what having blood work today will be like...

I try to be in the present but things I see read hear trigger a worry. There are some worries I can actually do something about but am so anxious that I find it difficult to act. typically the time is wrong, these problems won’t be solvable until later. So trying to live day by day.

So I’ve be exercising 1-3 x a day and meditating twice a day... trying to let go and quiet my mind. Not good enough. So I am starting to say to them (the worry) “I know, and it will be taken care of but for now it’s fine.”or I will just say “no.” It kind of helps but it keeps bothering.

Sometimes it’s a very general worry like I will get an image of a person stuck in my head and worry something is going wrong or will go wrong for them and it hurts though nothings happened.

I keep worrying maybe because I am feeling I may miss something important needed to be figured out? Or it’s just my emotional/mental sickness? I don’t know. Why am I worrying? I can’t concentrate. I can’t be at peace with this going on.

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Pray for them. God takes us through dangers seen and unseen, lift the person up to God in prayer, lift the situation up to God. Give the load to Him. God’s blessings

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Thank you my friend!!!!! I should have known this. This is s huge help! 😊

[Hidden]

You are one strong woman! This is the illness talking to you, try ( I know it's difficult) to go back to happy moments in your childhood if you have to go that far back! It's all going to be fine with your children. I have the faith & strength for you! Love ya!!!

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Thank you sooo much awesome you! I can be strong. I will take your advice to go to a happy place and yes I bet it will be fine with my kiddos. Thanks for understanding.

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

Hope will grow if you believe! I'm telling you, it's going to be fine. Maybe you need to relax & do something just for you....buy some flowers perhaps or a candle , anything that you dig!!! I love you!!! XXX

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

hmmm if I believe...well part of me does because I do have some hope.Maybe I will do something for myself thanks!

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

No not maybe ...do it for you.....for once put yourself first!!! XXX

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes, all things work together for her good. Prayer will take the worry and create it into something positive, giving it to God to bless the individual

[Hidden]

I’m very similar t this with worrying. It’s sooooo exhausting 😞

Mindfulness is real good. The thing with mindfulness is, that it takes time to be helpful and you have to persevere. I’m nit sure what you have available to you in your area, I went on a 12week course some time ago, and initially thought oh this doesn’t work for me..and realised it’s a bit of an ongoing thing to make it work for us..

I don’t think with any of our MH issues there is a quick fix unfortunately 😞 I so wish there was.....I think there are ways to manage it and I think we are all very individual in what works for us ....

Definilty for going to sleep at night the you tube videos by Jason Stephenson and Michael sealey work for me, which is a kind of mindfulness.

It’s great being here and sharing what works for us and better ways to manage things ,or try too ..

Best wishes 🌺🌺 xx

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Olivia, thank you! 💕 so I do meditate but on my own... I used to go to group once a week for years but panic attacks stopped me from wanting to drive there and try to meditate without having attacks... I’ve been better lately but still I hesitate so I do them online with Tara Brach. I’ll check out those two people you mentioned. Wish you didn’t have to worry yup it’s exhausting but we will get better in time I have hope.

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💕 xx

[Want2BHappy3]

Hi Star, I'm sure you have smart kids, encourage them to earn a scholarship. My nieces did. I'm in your shoes, can't turn the mind off. I keep getting this burning sensation all through my body and my stomach hurts Real Bad. I'm barely eating, that's not good for my diabetes, it causes me to get shaky n dizzy. So now I carry Candy to control it. My family doesn't know, but other web members have encouraged me to tell them in case of an emergency. Makes sense, just don't want to add to what they already worry about. Sounds like you're doing everything you can? You know that Anxiety is a BEAST!!!

[Starrlight]

Oh I will encourage the scholarships! My 4th grader is in AP class. Oh no I hope you are okay; sounds rough. I’m sorry you are going through that and yes I think I’m doing all I can , thank you!!!! and anxiety is a beast. Kill the beast. Best to you!!!

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Working on correcting the way we react and think about anxious worries takes time to fully sink in. Like anything else you have keep practicing to be good at it. Their will be good and bad days, but you must keep on trying and don’t get discouraged. Everything that is happening is completely normal especially when trying to counter anxious thoughts. It takes time for those thinking patterns to change and become habit forming.

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Oh yes it takes a while to retrain the brain. I had but then it all unraveled. I guess I am starting over. I find it difficult to think and react calmly. trying to expect the best; finding that very hard. Thanks so much, I will keep at it. Best to you Here I Am. Btw how are you doing today?

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Not very well. But I am still going. Thanks for asking.

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Oh no I’m sorry. You are a fighter I can tell! Is there anything that is in particular helping to get through?

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

Just keeping to a routine. Not letting myself be to idle when I am awake.

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

👍 nice

[Hidden]

We can’t control anything... not really. Im sure there are people as rich as rich can be and within 12 years they might have lost all that money ....

If you follow a faith .. all we can do is pray and leave it to Him.

If you don’t follow a religion all we can do is have hope and let things be x 💕

All you can do is take one step at a time and focus on daily goals x all these small steps will lead onto bigger accomplishments without you even realising x

Also please know to seek professional help for your worries if you need xx

[Starrlight]

Thanks Hope! I am praying and I will try leaving it with Him. True I will try to notice the accomplishments that grow when we move forward in small steps... we are trying that’s for sure. I appreciate you taking the time to make my day better 😃 how are you doing right now? I just said a prayer for you.