why am I this way?

[BrownEyesBlue]

why can’t I let things go? I hang on to things HARD. It could happen years ago and I’ll let it affect me now. I just can’t let it go. Is anyone else like this?

I express myself and how hurt I am by someone’s actions and I don’t know what kind of response I expect because I’m bound to bring it up again. I know this is wrong. I know I shouldn’t. But I do. What’s wrong with me? How do I fix this? 😞

It’s like I can’t help myself, even when I know better.

There’s one person (an ex) in particular I keep reminding of how much he hurt me. He did it on two occasions. And I know he’s pissed and with good reason because I should know better. I just feel like there’s something wrong with me. I feel so worthless and like I’m so screwed up.

Am I a lost cause?

[BrownEyesBlue]

Thank you 💖 I want to move on but he doesn’t make it easy. I can’t forget the past because he keeps making me feel so unwanted. So it’s hard. But I’m trying.

[blackcat64013]

Hi and thank you for your post👍No person is a lost cause. 💜

Change is possible.

Sometimes we need some help from a professional person. Counselling from a person who is not a family member or friend is very helpful. They are not invested in your circles but your care and well-being.

An alternative is to read information about ending partner relationships, to let go of the hold another person has over you.

Sending a big hug🦘

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank you.

[Hidden]

NEVER think of yourself as any kind of lost cause. Don’t put yourself down in any way, there are too many people in this world who love to do that to others. You don’t need to be doing that to yourself.

[gerrerd]

The past is gone ! you cant change it ! all you can do is learn from it ! there is only now !

[TrustYourSoul]

Currently there is a country music song, I can't remember the singer, but he sings: "I took the rear view mirror off my Chevy truck...." The song is about not looking back. You can't forget it, and you do learn from it, but your eyes should be looking forward out the windshield.👍

[Balloffur2468]

Yeah I experience the same thing. It sucks when you can’t stop fixating on things