Am I wrong?

[BrownEyesBlue]

I’ve been having two very bad days.

I made a comment that was totally taken out of context and for two days this person has made me feel as though my feelings are insignificant.

Being told I’m too sensitive; that I have people dictate my life; that no, they didn’t hurt my feelings.

Am I wrong to feel this person is just misunderstanding me?

Then knowing how bad I’ve been feeling and how lost I am, they tell me all the things they’re doing in their life. How they are having fantastic days. And I know people do but they know I’m hurting and because of them. This is someone I had in my life and foresaw having one my life for a while but not it just seems like I’m being left; again.

Am I wrong to feel let down?

[hypercat54]

Your feelings are real and valid so never let anyone diss them -ever. x

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you. It’s so frustrating when someone doesn’t acknowledge their role in how you are feeling; especially when you tell them they hurt you.

[Hidden]

Hello, Well you are certainly entitled to your feelings. If you feel a certain way then they matter and they should matter to who ever you trust as a support person. No one should belittle your feelings and they should be trying to be supportive and positive. Listening is just as important and advising. Feed back with care and compassion is a must. Communication can be hard for us with our mental health issues. Depending on how badly you feel, you can choose to stop the other person who may or may not know they are pushing your buttons in the wrong way. Here we try to be kind to our fellow community members and each of us may not always say the right things depending on our current state of mind. I hope i hope that is the case. There are instances with persons that their feelings take priority over yours and that's when they should stop. Still each of us has needs, therefore just stepping back and saying something polite to excuse yourself from the conversation may be in order. Your needs count too. Balance is what we strive for here for ourselves and others.

[mvillarreal]

Nobody ever has a right to dismiss your feelings. Feelings can sometimes be misperceptions, but at the end of the day, no one ever has a right to tell you that you're wrong for feeling a certain way. Instead, they should listen so that any misunderstanding can be cleared up, and if there really is something there, an apology and amends can be made. I'm not sure exactly what the situation is, but I wonder if it would help to explain to this person how their actions affected you? Telling someone they are "too sensitive" isn't just wrong; it's emotional abuse (look up the term "gaslighting," if you've never heard that word before). This, too, may need to be confronted, so that the person won't treat you or other people like their feelings are invalid in the future.

[45Maria123]

I saw your post about breakup are you still going through that? I’am looking for someone to talk while fixing those problems.

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to 45Maria123]

I am. It’s been rough. I’m open to talking.