feeling good and then

[Needtovent]

One stupid text message changed my peace. I was feeling a bit better about the family situation I’ve described in other posts. Felt like I’d done what I could, that maybe things were improving for my sister, and maybe I could actually enjoy my upcoming vacation. Then my brother sends a text with a feigned attempt at a joke about the overall situation. Well another sister took offense and it snowballed. Seems she’s as stressed as me about this situation (of course none of the sibs are admitting this to one another). I’m sure my upcoming vacation is adding to her worry. So now I feel like crap all over again. My chest is on fire, not sleeping, and worrying, ruminating. The situation isn’t going away so I have to cope. Do I cancel vacation? Would that really help? Then I gotta deal with my husband who I’d be letting down. OMG this just keeps circling! I want out! Like now!

[compasnet]

I say try to ignore all of the interactions and go on that much deserved vacation and enjoy...

[Needtovent in reply to compasnet]

At this very moment I am planning to go. Enjoy, is another thing though I will grab what enjoyment I can and cherish it. Gotta live for the moment, right? But I gotta say when my body and brain feel like this, at this moment, I can see why letting go seems a more peaceful solution.

[blackcat64013]

Hi,I was exactly in the same position 6 weeks ago, trouble with siblings going on a 5 day road trip together. 🥴 This was on my mind for weeks and we had a big disagreement on the morning we left. Not exactly ideal.🤔

The only way I could go was to firmly say that unless we left the 🐘 in the room behind, I AM NOT GOING. I was setting my boundary. No agreement = no trip. Eventually I got the agreement and because of this we had a good trip.

In hindsight, I couldn't change the others. I can only control my thinking about the situation which is much easier said than done.

If you can do that, I am sure you will be able to tolerate the stresses and enjoy the best things a vacation has to offer.

Sending you 🤗 from Australia 🐨

[Blueruth]

You can’t effectively help your sister if you aren’t healthy. Reading… do you need to get right with your husband too? A vacation isn’t a luxury in this case. You said little too.

[Needtovent in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks for taking the time. I’m not sure I understand your question..?? And comment about vacation.

[Blueruth in reply to Needtovent]

you referred to other posts. I didn't read them all but I thought I saw reference to your husband... maybe not. I can't remember other posts.

Contrary to popular opinion a vacation isn't a luxury. It is necessary for your well being. I think I got cut off with that last sentence. no idea where i was going.

[Needtovent in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks for clarification and glad you feel my vacation is important. Hub and I are ok but we he hates seeing me go to pieces, and sometimes it comes out angrily when it’s really frustration. The fact that he suggested calling my doc, was huge.

[Blueruth in reply to Needtovent]

Hopefully this is a good time to regroup