struggling feeling lonely and low

[catmummy3]

26 with anxiety depression acrophobia and recently been diagnosed with autism live with parents don’t leave the house don’t work or have many friendships I shut myself away from the outside world but I’m hoping to get support from doctors and other sites thought I’d try this see if anyone else is in my situation as I feel so alone my constant anxiety attacks and depression is getting the best of me and I feel like no one understands me I have no motivation also so day to day tasks I really struggle with

[catmummy3]

I get that tbh I prefer my own company as I get overwhelmed being with people especially if it’s loud but I don’t really communicate with anyone other than who I live with I feel like I’ve forgot how to laugh and feel happy

[LoveforAll41]

Hi catmummy, welcome!

Do your doctors include therapists? I can be a long search for one that works well with you. I know a couple good books for anxiety are Hope and Help for your nerves by Claire weeks and I like Feeling Great by David Burns.

Is there a group or something that you could join for outings? I feel alone unless I can tell someone how I am really feelings. Are there people you could reach out to and be honest with? I think that it is possible to share and not be a drag, just reassure people that you don't need them to do anything except listen.

I wish you peace, hope, and strength.☮️

[catmummy3 in reply to LoveforAll41]

well my doctors gave me the information for the therapy which i had but it didn't really help me as they spoke more about childhood but then that stopped but im getting a call this week with a mental health professional to see what other support is available my close family do message and check up on me but i just find it easier to say hey im fine even when im not

[HisDaughter in reply to LoveforAll41]

Well said!

[Trentz]

I've been in a similar situation before. I used to make lists of things I wanted to do and tick them off and that helped me knowing I was doing something no matter how small.

[catmummy3 in reply to Trentz]

thats actually such a great idea

[OldestSibling in reply to Trentz]

I was just learning about that today in group therapy. I was always disappointed by setting goals too high and didn’t think I could get there. You can set small goals such as making your bed, getting dressed, or brushing your teeth. By achieving those, you will have more confidence to take steps to achieve additional goals

[catmummy3 in reply to OldestSibling]

yes i need to start small just normal every day to day tasks and try not put them off

[brendonkellyrox]

the anxiety and depression i fee that 100% you are not alone its hard but we can get through it i know we can stay storng and stay connected with us we can help each other im 27 as well so we could probably relate pretty well

[catmummy3 in reply to brendonkellyrox]

i agree i only found this site yesterday and i am already feeling more positive knowing other people understand me i don't feel judged or as lonely hearing other people in the same situation as me

[WaitingGame10]

Hi well done for reaching out.Your situation sounds tough and wondering if you have been in touch with social services for assessment for support?

[catmummy3]

hi thank you well i speak to my doctors frequently and had therapy now I'm having a call on Wednesday to speak to a mental health professional who will start working with me and coming round to the house see what steps i need to take to get better mentally as ive always struggled with mental health but over the past few years its got much worse but im welcoming any help i can get

[Thurlesy]

O cat mummy, so sorry you are feeling so bad. If you are able to get out any little bit it will help you. When I felt absolutely awful, I know for certain that isolating myself make it way worse. It completely compounded everything, even though it is my natural habitat, the very first thing I do when I start to feel unwell, is to self isolate. But with age & experience I now know that is the absolute worst thing I can do. When I feel terrible, I just do not want to meet anyone, or have anyone ask me how I am feeling as that will bring an avalanche of uncontrollable tears. But I have in recent times gone for walks by myself where I know there will be other people walking, I have often really appreciated a friendly hello or a smile or seeing a little child! Also I have often gone for a coffee or a quick snack by myself, with other people around me. I have felt that it helped to be part of society, with others around me, but not having to engage with anyone directly. I know this sounds , but to completely isolate is definately not good for your soul. 😢 it is great to have your parents for support.

A lot of younger people use social media and gaming platforms to make friendships. Maybe this would be of use to you if you?

I'm presuming with your name that you have z cat?! That is really good. It is lovely to have a pet, and at least a cat is not as demanding as other pets, for walking etc.

I hope you fancy some help or some useful information here 🌻

[catmummy3 in reply to Thurlesy]

Aw thank you so much for that reply i did used to go for walks as i live close to the beach but when i started to feel more down i would isolate now ive got my self stuck in a dark hole where i find everything so overwhelming for me but ive realised staying home and not socialising has made me a lot worse i tend to just scroll through social media but not to the point where i message anyone and yes well i have 3 cats but one have them has gone missing and thats really hurting my heart but im just trying to stay hopeful that hell come back

[Teaching]

Welcome to the community, hopefully, you'll get the help you need.

[catmummy3 in reply to Teaching]

thank you 😊

[Vasiliki99]

It's very tough trying small things might help and forcing yourself but this is not easy for us to get through and it is tough and we feel isolated when we are alone a lot and our realities are very very complicated.....and truthfully we have to fight through the days your parents should help you and if you have diseases it's not that much you can do

[Vasiliki99]

Yes tough

[HisDaughter]

I am very sorry!

Your life is similar to mine and I know it's hard to be in your place. But I really hope that you feel encouraged by all the good advice you've received here already and that you can remember it too during your lowest moments.

For me, for many years, it was just more desirable to not socialize much because I'd feel like I had to fake being happy and normal when I was around people, and also it was painful to see everyone have a nice life.

God helped me realize that I needed to force myself to do things that are helpful and healthy.

But I still ask God a lot to help me and I still have to struggle with many symptoms.

A 12-step program called Celebrate Recovery has helped me a lot and I've seen that it helps many others.

I hope that you never give up. You are young and things can get better even when everything looks so hopeless.

May God bless you a lot every single day!

[catmummy3 in reply to HisDaughter]

i feel like everyone is getting on with their life and im here stuck not knowing what to do i feel lost and confused getting overwhelmed all the time and panic attacks makes me feel will this be my life forever

[HisDaughter in reply to catmummy3]

Exactly! I see that we have similar feelings, symptoms, fears, and thoughts and it's good for us to share and to support each other. It makes me feel better when I see that I'm not the only who suffers and I tell myself that I have to try hard all the time to help myself and get better, but it's not always very easy. I hope that you never give up because you are worth it and I know that God wants to bless us. You are young and precious! Each human being is very valuable. We should never give up.

[catmummy3 in reply to HisDaughter]

That made me smile it gives me some peace and hope knowing I’m not alone and with the right support effort hope and guidance this is just a rough patch and won’t be like this forever I hope your doing okay too ☺️

[HisDaughter]

Thank you. Being alive is a big blessing, but sometimes it doesn't feel that way. Trials and afflictions are part of life and maybe some things will not improve 100% this year, but it's important to be strong and persevere. Your life matters a lot. All our lives matter very much! I hope that God gives you lots of peace in your heart and love, too. You've had a lot of courage already by opening up and sharing about your pain. It is worth it to continue our fight against our health problems and to do our best to feel better. I wish you a lot of healing and joy. I wish you contentment, happiness and success. I wish you a lot of strength and perseverance. You are young and I know that you matter a lot to God. He cares about us!

[catmummy3 in reply to HisDaughter]

im feeling the love