It's not "Just" nervousness

[Dusty1234]

Hello, I wonder if anyone else feels this way. I am so tired of people, even therapist, saying "just" do it. I have a real problem with anxiety since I started kindergarten many years ago. I know the solution is to keep trying, but sometimes I can't. I can write scripts, and practice and use all the mechanisms recommended, but I get too stuck. I feel like such a failure and I really don't need advice then, just some support. It's so hard and frustrating. I feel so alone and discouraged.

[AlexFlorida]

Hello Dusty1234. I know exactly how you feel. Many times we are not looking for advice from family, friends, and others who are around us… what we need is support! A hug, A I believe you and Believe you’re going through a lot I’m here for you. “Just Do It” doesn’t work when you feel like how we feel. For example, I have a heart condition (Asd ostium secundum) that needs repair and yes luckily I’m seeing Doctors and there’s a repair for it but apart from all that and probably because of this condition I have serious anxiety and panic attacks, I’m scared actually terrified and I have chest pain 24/7 Seven days a week, I’m dizzy, fatigued… I’m freaking out and I’m seeing all kind of Doctors know because I believe there’s something else that’s causing all this! I’m seeing a psychiatrist who got me on meds. I’m a total mess and the “just do it” the “it’s all in your head” is not working at all! I know how you feel. Trust me. I hope this all goes away soon for both of us!!!

[Agora1]

Hi Dusty1234 and Welcome...I understand you totally. Over the years of my struggling through Anxiety & Agoraphobia,

I've learned to tune out anyone who used the word "just" before anxiety/nervousness.

There is nothing just about it. Fear is real in every sense of the word. Saying "just anxiety"

minimizes what we are going through. So many times I wanted to say "well then, you try it"....

You can't feel discouraged or alone because you are not. There are many of us who can support your frustration with the people who think like this including some doctors unfortunately. I had hoped things would change down the road with mental health issues but somehow a few unbelieving squeeze through the cracks and put us down including family and friends. Been there.

Dusty, only you really know what you are going through and only you will know when the time is right to take that step forward. Hearing it from others won't do it. As for myself,

the time was right after the number of years I spent locked in my home due to overwhelming fear. I had been on therapy as well as meds all that while but once I was able to not be pressured to take that step outside and forward, I did it. On my own in My Way (like the song) You will as well new friend. I'm happy you are here with us. Happy Sunday~ xx

[Lve2dance]

We are here for you 💋.