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My mom has open heart surgery tomorrow morning. I almost lost her two months ago from a heart attack. Two months ago, I went to visit my mom and I noticed that she was breathing funny so I took her to the ER. She ended up having a heart attack and found out she was in congestive heart failure and put her on life support. Fast forward two months later, since then she has been home working on getting stronger for surgery and she is better but without the surgery the doctor says she won’t live longer than five months. So she need this heart surgery to live but I am scared she won’t make it through surgery. I have been having little bouts of panic attack thinking I won’t ever see her again and thinking about what I would do if I lose her. I know I should be focusing on her making it though but it’s so hard. Please keep my mom in your thoughts and prayers as she heads into surgery tmrw morning.

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BW33

I will pray for ur mom n U. U will b on my heart today.

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perkofawallflower in reply toBW33

Thank you so much I appreciate it

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Carcar89

What a terrible time your going through ! I’m sure your mum will be just fine she sounds like a fighter . And don’t feel guilty for feeling anxious the body natural responds to difficult situations with anxiety ! Your not a robot don’t be so hard on yourself. My thoughts are with you and your mum she will be just fine have faith 😉

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perkofawallflower in reply toCarcar89

Yes very true and for the past

Month I have been having stomach , back and neck pain. 😰

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Carcar89 in reply toperkofawallflower

Typical stress and anxiety symptoms the mind can be a cruel thing it can have such an impact on your health ☹️

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perkofawallflower in reply toCarcar89

Very true

You both will be in my spirit!!! It's very difficult when you see your mom suffering & you have a close relationship. I really feel for you! Wishing you peace & your mom the best!!! XXX

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perkofawallflower in reply to

Thank you so much. She’s my best friend and she is the one person in the entire world who understand me and gets me. She loves me fiercely

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Yes my mom was my best friend also. Keep doing slow breathing! I know what you're feeling like right now, it's understandable! I wish you both the BEST!!!! XXX

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Thank you ☺️

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My pleasure...I'm here for you!!! Big Hugs!!! XXX

I’m so sorry your family is going through this period of critical health. I understand how important your Mom is to you. I will be praying for you and your Mom. I will also be praying for her surgeon! Try not to make yourself sick with worry...she’s in God’s hands now...

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perkofawallflower in reply to

Thank you so much and I have to keep reminding myself that it’s in God’s hands sometimes it’s hard to let go of worry and trust that no matter the outcome hat I will be okay

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Starrlight

Praying for you and your mom. Sending love and peace too.

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perkofawallflower in reply toStarrlight

Thank you

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Starrlight in reply toperkofawallflower

💕 ❤️ 💗 💕

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lostinanxiety

My thoughts are with you and your mom. Wishing you the best. Try to be strong.

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perkofawallflower in reply tolostinanxiety

Thank you

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Rpan

Best wishes, do your best to stay positive. Try to bring your thoughts towards the lighter side. Trust that things will work out. Good luck will prey for your family.

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perkofawallflower in reply toRpan

Thank you

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julia2

may god bless her! you will be in our heart

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perkofawallflower in reply tojulia2

Thank you

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b1b1b1

Open heart surgery has become quite safe. My husband, as well as several people I know have had it and been fine. I understand that it is very scary though. Usually the surgeon tells you what the percentage risk is. What did he tell you? The recovery, however can take a bid longer than doctors indicate.

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perkofawallflower in reply tob1b1b1

I guess normal risk is 2% chance of passing

My moms is 4 % the heart surgeon said she is not high risk but I am just nervous I guess because I am always nervous

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b1b1b1

It is understandable that you are nervous. It is good that the surgery is tomorrow morning so you don't have to wait too long. Try to get a decent night's sleep because it will be a long day.

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perkofawallflower in reply tob1b1b1

Yeah my stomach is all in knots and cramping. I know it’s my anxiety 😞

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b1b1b1 in reply toperkofawallflower

Also, try to remind yourself that she is likely to be much better after the surgery and after she has had some time to recover. These surgeries can make an almost miraculous difference, as I have seen with my husband and another person. Let us know how she does.

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Lyn842

Will pray for you and your mom. What you are feeling and thinking is very normal. Everyone gets fearful when a loved one has surgery. Even when its not a serious surgery. Your mom is undergoing a serious operation. Just pray and know she is in Gods hands. Dear Lord, I lift up wallflower Mom to you. Please give her body strength to undergo this surgery with a good recovery. I ask that you guide the surgeons hands and everyone else who comes in contact with her. And if God forbid she is meant to go home to you I pray you give her daughter strength to deal and peace in her heart and mind. I thank you Lord for all the prayers that are coming forth. In your precious name I pray. Amen. Please let me know how she does. Positive thoughts coming your way as well as prayers. Hugs to you.

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perkofawallflower in reply toLyn842

Thank you so much for your kind words of support and also the prayers. I know my mom appreciates them as well

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melbrown

I'll be keeping you & your mom in my thoughts. Trust she's in great hands... try to distract yourself if you can... know it's hard... maybe get out ... get her her favorite flowers, make a tasty treat she loves for when she comes home... listen to some calm music, remember the breathing excerises. It's going to be okay. Sending hugs & love.

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Sasha143

Sending prayers your way for a smooth surgery, peace of mind and heart for you both, and a speedy recovery for your mom <3

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Agora1

Keeping you and your mom close in thought and near to my heart.

God Bless both of you xx

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