Stress

[Adamj]

I’m coming to an understand a lot of my issue is stress. My mom brought something up that she knew would stress me and it just sent me into a downward spiral felt it shoot across my back down my arms in my chest all over my body. Like I don’t get how to lessen my stress. I’m trying to find a job again because I know routine has helped me a lot in the past. But right now this stress is wrecking havoc on me physically and mentally and that’s why I think the symptoms are scaring me so much because it’s not my normal adrenaline panic attacks my body feels like utter poop when it happens. I’ve tried exercising and mediation and my body just doesn’t seem to be like exercising too much like I’ve been trying light exercise and it’s actually making me feel funky during and after. My body feels depleted. I had a good couple days actually went to a family gathering for 3 hours went to the store and didn’t run through it. My mom purposely does/says things to stress me out and then it just sends me into a downward spiral again.

[SarasotahereIcome]

Sorry your mom is stressing you out. I do not handle or cope very well to changes etc. Stress is definitely a problem for me too. I am usually always telling myself positive things and ignoring negative but it puts me out of touch a lot of the time somehow with reality. Emotions are supposed to alert us to what’s going on on the inside so that it can be dealt with. But I don’t want to have to address anything right now. I’m overwhelmed and stuck. I don’t feel like I have the energy to make decisions right now. I don’t get how to lessen my stress as well. Sounds like your mom might be pushing things on you she wants you to deal with Wether you want to or not. That’s a shame. I know I annoy the heck out of my kids. Maybe you can just ignore what she’s saying and refuse to let her push your buttons. Leave the room. Go take a walk. If you stay and take it, it’ll continue. If you walk away, she knows you’re not going to sit there and take it. Maybe she doesn’t realize how much stress she causes you. It’d be ideal if you could tell her what you’ve said here by any chance. She might change if she knows it upsets you. Hope it works out for you. Take care.

[Adamj in reply to SarasotahereIcome]

Thank you I understand how you’re feeling too with stress and such im so lost at this moment. I did tell her how it makes me feel will see how long it lasts. One day at a time or even one minute at a time.

[SarasotahereIcome in reply to Adamj]

You got that right. Just stay in today. Everything is going to be alright.

[Bella_lee]

Hi @Adamj it's good that you were able to tell your mum how you feel when she stresses you and I really do hope that she takes to heart what you've told her. As parents sometimes we get it right in parenting and sometimes we don't but we have the choice to get it right in when there is good communication.

Your decision to keep taking one day at a time is wonderful and every new day brings the possibility of things getting better so please keep that faith and stay strong.

Sending you a hug and a prayer for you to see the light at the end of this tunnel.

[Sretaw]

I really know what you’re dealing with my mother is just the same she takes great pleasure in making my stress and pain levels rise she knows what buttons to push and does it deliberately. The pain from top to toe is immense and inside my body hurts so much I can’t stand it, I really don’t know how to deal with it only I try not to talk or see her and when I do she takes no responsibility whatsoever.

[Sretaw]

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