I want to die

[Honzad]

My wife left me and I want to die. It happened 3 years ago but nothing is better

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

We need to live for ourselves. Find ways to love ourselves! Be comfortable with who we are, everyone one of us precious and life precious

[LazyXrayEyes2255 in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

be your best friend

attention on you only

[Honzad in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

I won't kill myself. Just wish I was dead. I loved her so much. Why did she do this to me?

[LazyXrayEyes2255 in reply to Honzad]

I feel really bad when lost love

It's going to take time to recover

we will support you

virtual hugs

[LazyXrayEyes2255 in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

remember you are important too

and find ways to cope rather than suffering so much, focus on yourself

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

please phone suicide prevention line!!!!

[Skyp]

It will take time to recover. I split from partner 5 years ago we were together 20 yearsI'm the one that finished the relationship. Its hard.i still miss him.but as they say everything happens for a reason.take care of yourself. Get out and socialise with freinds.difficult I know as all my freinds married etc...I'm in my 60"s and not about to give up on my life.i try and keep busy voluntary work.i still feel sad but time heals....so they say.take care 👍

[NorwegianWood]

Grief is not the full story of life. You are going through hard times but don't let it control you. Expand your networks. Have you thought about volunteering. ParkRun is always looking for help - there's a range of weekly tasks and it's a fantastic group to be part of. People are all there to run or walk or push a pram and walk their dog and you might even find yourself running. Maybe a walking group is more your thing. Earthcare, forest care, litter groups cleaning segments of river bank, roadside... and so on.

There are many groups that would love your help, Meals on Wheels (is that a thing where you are?) Is there a local volunteer fire brigade? Have you thought about a daily exercise routine to give you a goal as well as a distraction. It might be worth seeking out someone who can help you with depression. You will find counselors and psychologists in most places.

Community groups will expand your horizon, increase your network, give you people to talk to and even perhaps to start dreaming together and finding other things in common.

What's your hobby? Who can you share it with? How might you share your hobby with other groups? Make connections locally. You never know where it might lead.

[nativeblood]

That aint easy finding ways and things to do to preoccupy your time, company will mean a lot loneliness I am there your case its different, venting and praying extra hard as well is a necessity

[Always_hope_andpray]

The NHS do talking therapies , you can speak with a counsellor or do group therapy. The advise members have given in the replies seems very good, about finding a hobby, volunteering, giving your life purpose.

Have you tried meditation/ listening to podcasts on YouTube. Mel Robbins is very good for motivation.

Journaling your thoughts is very good. Sometimes people/friends are busy to listen to us. I would definitely recommend journalling and being you're own friend. Self compassion is so important. We need to be kinder to ourselves.

It's extremely sad when people leave. But we haven't got the control over people/things/wishing things were different.

We can't go back in time to change things either.

What's important that you're still here, alive. We need to find happiness within, not in people. (Easily said than done)

Focus on yourself and find the joy in the things you do have in your life and find more things to make yourself happy.

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[jessie2pigs]

Hi fella, do you have a dog? They can be a lifeline to a whole new other life, socialising with other people at training classes or simply just going for a walk and chatting to other dog walkers.

If you don't want to take on the responsibility of having one of your own then there are lots of rescues out there who would be over the moon if you could foster for them, or take some out of the kennels to exercise. Put all those negative feelings you have into something really positive and you will reap the rewards, I promise you.

I volunteer for an animal charity called The Animal Team who offer different services to rescues that are registered with them, such as home checks & tranport runs. The team pull transporters together to help all kinds of animals - dogs, cats, rabbits, parrots...to get them out of bad situations such as the dog pounds/unsuitable homes, and into foster homes or directly to the rescues that have offered them a lifeline. Fuel costs are covered and you become part of a whole online community where friendships are formed.

facebook.com/TheAnimalTeamR...

This is the link to one of the ATeams pages on FB that I run for rescues trying to find homes for their animals. I've been with them for nine years and it has given me a lifeline throughout some very testing times in my life. And the death of my son two years ago.

It's a different focus you need, and I hope you find something to make you see how one person doesn't hold your life in their hands, you hold your own destiny and being proactive in something very very worthwhile is a start.

Good luck to you buddy

[IntoTheWild5150]

Hello Honzad,

I feel for you, brother. I was in your shoes long ago. It feels like life will never get better. I know people are well intentioned and telling you things will get better, but there's no guarantee of that. There is a chance though.

One day, you might wake up and feel a little less terrible. A day, a week, a month, a year from then, you might wake up and not think about it all. You won't even notice that you're not miserable anymore. You might be happy alone. You might be happy with someone else. Anything is possible. That's what kept me going. Just knowing that anything was possible. Best wishes.