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Relatives are often not your friends.

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I have recently learned how spiteful and nasty some relatives can be,

Because of a recent misunderstanding where i must confess i was a bit abrupt on a telephone conversation i have now been pilloried beyond belief. The venom used against me has been horrendous and has left me a nervous wreck.

Luckily i live some way from any of them and rarely have i seen them for years,but the malicious gossip has gone on unabated.

So basically i have divorced the lot of them and i realise they only ever wanted me for gain.Its been a hard learning curve.

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fauxartist

It is a hard learning curve. Just because someone is a relative doesn't mean we have to like them or allow them to run us down. I have divorced myself too from that behavior. I don't talk to the family that is like that, because I'm not like that. I keep in touch with my nieces and nephews and my one brother ... that works for me.

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Roxylox

Tbink l used to feel l had to make an effort with the nastier relatives, now l don't.

A couple of weeks ago I was angry because I got given a load of excuses by a family member over why they hadnt contacted me for ages and I had felt really angry and what I decided to do is sod them and in the rare event that I really really have nothing better to do then I will get in contact!

It makes me so angry the way they make excuses!

If you want to do things then you will!

Don't hide behind excuses!

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Arymretep

Me too

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secrets22

oh i get overlooked to as if i am not even there,so better now that i have no contact.

Thing is if you really really want to do something or see someone then you will shift heaven and earth to make it happen.

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bethelbee

They always say you can pick your friends but not your relatives..

With us usually a couple of hours if it's just for coffee and a chat with nothing else booked.

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