Struggling

[lifted]

Hi I'm lifted , I suffer from depression and bipolar I'm 56, I'm on velefaxine for depression and lithium for bipolor I have spent the last 3 weeks in bed , crying and just don't want to get up I'm also going through the menopause . My husband and daughter just don't understand why I panic and get confused , brain fog crying , I try come downstairs and clean , then get why you crying ,why you confused I feel a stranger in my own home , and just go to bed .

[artisticcatowner]

Hello! I am 19 but I am sorry you’re going through that.

[Roxylox]

I am also 56. Am doing pretty ok now, but know how you feel when critcized. I would need a rest nearly every day. I am on Lithium and a blood pressure tablet and can tire easily.My kids used to accuse me of being lazy, that would make me feel bad. They don't say that much now anymore, maybe they have more understanding now they are older.

I would retreat as well if they are critical. I am not allowed to invade their space anyhow, don't I sound weak!

[lifted in reply to Roxylox]

Thankyou for reply , I'll look into this

[Roxylox in reply to lifted]

Let me clarify that I have no bother getting up, it's just l usually get tired some hours later and need a nap.I can be up as early as 6.30 many mornings to get my daughter out to school and do breakfast for hubby before he goes to work, so I'm not complaining really.

In fact, other tablets l was on before made me much more groggy than the lithium.

I was just sort of pointing out than any medications can make you tired

[notanotter]

I wonder if you should talk to your OB-GYN as well as your psychiatrist. First, in my experience, feeling so depressed you feel unable to get out of bed is a yellow flag that the medication is not working.

But also, menopause affects how you process some medications, because of your estrogen decreasing (and fluctuating up/down). Maybe you need a tweak in medication? I would seek specialist advice as soon as possible.

Please also remind your family that you're adjusting to natural menopause, which can temporarily affect your thinking and your energy levels, and it can definitely make you weepy and emotional, among other things.

[notanotter in reply to notanotter]

LOL I speak from experience of the menopause. I am not someone with bipolar, but I have chronic depression, and I was NOT prepared for the big smack of emotions the menopause transition could bring.

[lifted in reply to notanotter]

Thankyou for reply I'll look into this

[marsdream]

I am sorry that you are feeling this way. Have you tired talking to your doctor about a medication adjustment. In the mean time, why don't you start writing down the feelings that you are having this way you can talk to your doctor and explain to him how long you have been going through this. I will pray for you. Father God in Jesus name, I pray that this dear lady would sense your peace and finds answers to her heartaches. In Jesus name, amen. Hang in there!

[lifted in reply to marsdream]

Thankyou

[cbgrace1980]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Just do the best you can each day. Help educate your family on depression and bipolar by explaining how you feel to them. I bet they will try to understand. Have you communicated to your doctor lately about how you don't feel like getting out of bed? Hugs to you, thank you for sharing with us. I hope that you feel better soon.

[lifted in reply to cbgrace1980]

To be honest they see me crying so much my Daughter gets angry and says I'm giving in , and I'm so negative, I'm feeding the depression. I will speak to my doctor and thankyou xx

[lifted in reply to cbgrace1980]

Thankyou xx

[Married1978]

I just saw my psychiatrist yesterday about the sudden on set of depression. We reviewed my meds and tweaked a bit. Bipolar and menapause! Nice combination huh. In my opinion, your best bet is too call your psychiatrist so he/she can can help you get a plan that works.I've only just recently joined, but I look at this site, I feel that people know where I've been and aren't judgemental t so I maybe you can keep coming back for here support

[lifted in reply to Married1978]

To be honest I do tell them, they just say your always crying when your ill, nothing gets done around the house , yet she helps a little but shouts when she sees me crying and says I'm giving in, and stop being so negative , it breaks my heart . I will speak to my doctor's thankyou

[lifted]

Many thanks for reply I will contact them