Can I do it

[Cimmy]

Hi all, I’m having nightmares and cold sweats at the moment. I’m going to my daughter’s on Thursday as she is having a baby and needs my help with the other children, but I don’t know whether I can do it. My anxiety is through the roof at the thoughts of going and leaving my home. But she needs me and I want to be there for her, im just so frightened at the moment, how will I cope, what if im ill, how will I cope, am I going to be more of a hindrance than a help, I’m so confused and worried, I can’t sleep, I keep having panic attacks, cold sweats and just feeling so low and pathetic, any help would be so greafully received. Thank you for reading

[Isinatra]

I certainly understand how you feel! I went through many years of what you are experiencing. One scenario….once you get distracted by tending to the needs of the children, you may be very busy and your anxiety will diminish. But you have to force yourself to leave your house first. Another scenario….tell your daughter you could stay for a while, but she needs reinforcements if you become too overwhelmed. Last scenario…you’ve thought about it and you just can’t go. Let your daughter know so she can make other arrangements. I hope your daughter knows your situation….if so, she shouldn’t be surprised at your hesitancy and may have a back up plan already. I’ve had to say no many times for my own well being. What you decide should be what’s right for you. 🌸

[Cimmy in reply to Isinatra]

Hi and thanks for your kind reply, I’m trying really hard to calm down because my daughter needs me and I can’t let her down, I have done so many times in the past, she’s having a c section and has anther two children under 5, her husband works two jobs so I need to step up, I’m hoping your right in the sense of that I will be to busy with the little ones to let my anxiety take over. I’m hoping I will be ok once I’m there, I just want to be normal (whatever that may be) it so kind of you to reply and thank you for your support and kind words

[Isinatra in reply to Cimmy]

I hope your anxiety smooths once you get there. I’ve always wanted to be normal, too. But the older I got,the less important it was. Trying to be someone you’re not was just too tough. I’ve reached somewhat of a balance that works. I try to live by my own rules and they may not be normal, but they’re “good enough”. 🌸🌼

[sobreviviente]

Ah Cimmy. Sorry to hear that.

But the anxiety you are feeling now is probably much worse than how you'll get on with the kids. A little bit like 'pre match nerves'.Try and put it out of your mind as best you can. And before you know it, it will all be over.

[Cimmy in reply to sobreviviente]

Hi and thank you for your kind reply, you analogy of or match nerves fits very well, I hope I will be ok when I get there, I’m sure it is pre nerves, I just want to be able to be of help to her as she needs me and I’m so scared of letting her down. The thoughts of going is terrifying me at the moment because I don’t really leave the house unless I really really have to. My anxiety rules my life and it’s so hard to control, I just want to be happy and excited about this but my anxiety won’t let me. Thanks again for your reply it’s so comforting knowing that there are people out there who don’t judge me and understand.