Do i need help worried mummy

[Bellz1]

Do i need help ??? Hi my grandad passed away almost a year ago. He was like my dad. I also have a one year old daughter. I have found since he has passed that im always sad. I think about him all day everyday. But it has made me constantly think about death and other people dying around me its taking over my mind. I play scenarios in my head of accidents happening and what if this happens. I feel like i can not even have a normal day out with my mum because all i think is what im i going to do when she dies. I feel mean for bringing my daughter into the world as i dont want her to be upset when i die. Its also effecting my relationship at home as im easily irritated and do not want to he around my partner. I also care for my nana and its like im just waiting for her to die now and i dont think i can cope with another death. Alot of the time i want to run away with my daughter and hide from the world just me and her. I have been trying to help myself but the feelings are not going away.

[Hidden]

I’ve had this too. It comes off and on with me. I cry often thinking about loved ones dying and sometimes have severe anxiety over it. I think it normal and part of being human when you really understand the truth. There is hope however, I have found. My faith is where I find hope. I also go to groups that keep me in fellowship so I don’t get overwhelmed with that depressed feeling. I don’t think a pill can take away the fact that we die and our loved ones die. I once googled this issue and found many people have the same problem.

[Bellz1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[countryboy1]

We all go thru separation anxiety when we lose a loved one. I generally see a therapist because I want to ensure that I am processing the grief in a positive manner. Plus you said that you want to run away with your daughter and hid from the world, that statement concerns me. What about your partner? Are you able to truly open up to that person? That would help as well. I would see a therapist if I were you just to make sure that I am ok.

[Bellz1 in reply to countryboy1]

I fell i can not always tell him how im exactly feeling as he does not understand and can get a bit moody about it. He also has his other daughter every weekend. And i just become really irritated with them both. I feel awful but i just want to be on my own all the time with my daughter. I try really hard to be involved with them but im just finding my self being being distant.

[countryboy1 in reply to Bellz1]

I would really go see a therapist, for several reasons. You have a lot going on, the separation from loved one. It doesn't seem like you have that person whose shoulder you can really lean on, you have blended family issues. I would go see someone who could help me unpack all that stuff. You would feel so much better in the long run

[Bellz1 in reply to countryboy1]

Thank you i have messaged talk im waiting for them to ring me for an assessment. Thanks for your help.

[UB4me]

Losing a loved one is difficult to work through on our own. We were made for relationships. I think that is why we feel such a void when we go through a significant loss. I, too, have suffered some tragedies within the last 12 months. Our youngest son was diagnosed with brain cancer, and although he is doing great now and there is no sign of cancer, I can find myself dwelling on the “what-if’s” and fearing death. I tend to obsess over it once I allow my mind to go down the trail. I also lost my uncle tragically this year. Death is something that we cannot avoid, but, I am finding that we don’t have to fear it. There is hope! I agree that seeking a good counselor to help you sort through your fears could be very helpful. I plan on doing the same. I pray that you will find peace and be given the gift of enjoying life with your little one.